L.O.V.E. ....Cupid's Choke Hold (What does it mean to you?)

KaeMartyndale · Post by **KaeMartyndale** » 26 Jun 2008, 09:22

If he treats you like that you deserve better. Even though breaking up is messy and awkward. Believe me, I know.

Tracey Neal · Post by **Tracey Neal** » 26 Jun 2008, 13:14

awelker wrote:Wow i was reading my post in this thread and, I was truly happy with him. Why is is such a d bag then? We were talking yesterday and I was like "I need to ask you some questions" And he answered everyone.

Its only been a week, A WEEK, and he's sleeping with his ex girlfriend, soon to be gf again. He said that he didn't sleep with her while we were dating but I don't know if I can trust him on that one. I was really a total B**** to him but personally I think he deserved it.

So we are hanging out tonight, 1) to return my stuff and 2) I need to talk to him in person. This over the internet stuff sucks.

Aww Alli, I hate to hear that. I agree with Kae you deserve better. EGH! With his ex no less..and their already bloody shagging you say...damn

Mmm... the pangs of LOVE.

But you're young and very pretty and smart and all the more wiser having been through this...your Mr.Right is somewhere out there...and it is your adventure to find him!!

Tracey Neal · Post by **Tracey Neal** » 26 Jun 2008, 13:17

Oh good luck meeting up with him. Bring a rolling pin and whack him with it!

...skillet works too

sleepydumpling · Post by **sleepydumpling** » 27 Jun 2008, 00:29

Girl, any guy that doesn't make you feel wonderful before, during and after his presence isn't worth having. We all deserve a man like that!

Wordsgood · Post by **Wordsgood** » 27 Jun 2008, 03:46

Hmmm, this is a toughie topic!

I've been married for 12 years now, but have been friends with him for 20 years. We dated once before in our very early 20's, but it didn't last then for a lot of reasons - too young, too wrapped up in a jerk I thought I really loved, etc.

I will say this though - marriage is WORK! It is not for the faint of heart and should not be entered into lightly - ever. Unless you and your partner are extrodinarily lucky you can count on certain facts in life:

1) Health problems, both minor and serious, will cast shadows on your life and happiness,
2) There will be good times and bad ones too.
3) Looks fade, no matter who you are or how much plastic surgery you get.
4) Finances wll always be an issue, whether you have very little money, none, or are filthy rich
5) Family (if you have any) will stick their noses into your marriage - and it can divide you unless you learn to stand together and are willing to always put the feelings of your spouse above those of family and friends.
7) Passions waxes and wanes. Lust comes and goes. Your sex drives will vary, as will your desire for each other at different phases of your relationship and lives.

My husband and I faced more life crisis' in the first 5 years of our marriage than the average couple does in the first 20! But we hung in there. During the last 7, we have been to hell and back - several times - for a number of reasons, but chiefly due to one heck of lot of fallout as a result of my illness. We have come close to calling it quits a few times, but then we stepped back and remembered all the reasons we fell in love and got married in the first place. And you know what? Those reasons are still all there and I believe we as a couple are stronger in spite, or maybe because, of all the problems we have and continue to face.

Two things only would cause either of us to call it quits - infidelity and broken trust. (I don't mean little white lies, I mean being totally unable to trust what the other one says.)

So, to all you newly married or planning/hoping to get married people out there, remember this - marriage, with or without a piece of paper making it legal - is WORK!!! But you know what? IT'S WORTH IT!!!!

Tracey Neal · Post by **Tracey Neal** » 27 Jun 2008, 11:20

Wordsgood wrote:Hmmm, this is a toughie topic!

I've been married for 12 years now, but have been friends with him for 20 years. We dated once before in our very early 20's, but it didn't last then for a lot of reasons - too young, too wrapped up in a jerk I thought I really loved, etc.

I will say this though - marriage is WORK! It is not for the faint of heart and should not be entered into lightly - ever. Unless you and your partner are extrodinarily lucky you can count on certain facts in life:

1) Health problems, both minor and serious, will cast shadows on your life and happiness,
2) There will be good times and bad ones too.
3) Looks fade, no matter who you are or how much plastic surgery you get.
4) Finances wll always be an issue, whether you have very little money, none, or are filthy rich
5) Family (if you have any) will stick their noses into your marriage - and it can divide you unless you learn to stand together and are willing to always put the feelings of your spouse above those of family and friends.
7) Passions waxes and wanes. Lust comes and goes. Your sex drives will vary, as will your desire for each other at different phases of your relationship and lives.

My husband and I faced more life crisis' in the first 5 years of our marriage than the average couple does in the first 20! But we hung in there. During the last 7, we have been to hell and back - several times - for a number of reasons, but chiefly due to one heck of lot of fallout as a result of my illness. We have come close to calling it quits a few times, but then we stepped back and remembered all the reasons we fell in love and got married in the first place. And you know what? Those reasons are still all there and I believe we as a couple are stronger in spite, or maybe because, of all the problems we have and continue to face.

Two things only would cause either of us to call it quits - infidelity and broken trust. (I don't mean little white lies, I mean being totally unable to trust what the other one says.)

So, to all you newly married or planning/hoping to get married people out there, remember this - marriage, with or without a piece of paper making it legal - is WORK!!! But you know what? IT'S WORTH IT!!!!

Wow those are such great words of wisdom. I would agree. Thank you for sharing. Very well put!!

Tracey Neal · Post by **Tracey Neal** » 27 Jun 2008, 11:21

sleepydumpling wrote:Girl, any guy that doesn't make you feel wonderful before, during and after his presence isn't worth having. We all deserve a man like that!

You're right...we all do. We deserve to be loved. Love is a most beautiful thing.

urasay · Post by **urasay** » 03 Dec 2009, 18:28

To love. To be loved. To never forget your own insignificance. To never get used to the unspeakable violence and the vulgar disparity of life around you. To seek joy in the saddest places. To pursue beauty to its lair. To never simplify what is complicated or complicate what is simple. To respect strength, never power. Above all, to watch. To try and understand. To never look away. And never, never, to forget.- arundhati roy in 'come september'