L.O.V.E. ....Cupid's Choke Hold (What does it mean to you?)

[Scott]

On the issue of spark... I think spark is about more than just sex and desire. I think spark with the person you're really going to spend your life goes into all aspects of life. Intellectually, emotionally, physically, sexually... the spark survives even through the tough bits and the boring bits, because you connect on a deeper level than you do with anyone else.

Yes, I believe that too. I think that instant spark, and "chemistry" as it's often called, allows the two people to connect so deeply. Two people can meet and they have that spark and they become infatuated with each other, a lot of which is short-lived emotions probably stemming from the novelty of the relationship. But since they talk so much and get to know each other so much in that time, as the short-term infatuation fades it can be replaced by a permanent bond between two people who truly care about each other and who usually know each other more than anyone else. Well, I guess I'm just repeating what you said.

[Tracey Neal]

On the issue of spark... I think spark is about more than just sex and desire. I think spark with the person you're really going to spend your life goes into all aspects of life. Intellectually, emotionally, physically, sexually... the spark survives even through the tough bits and the boring bits, because you connect on a deeper level than you do with anyone else.

Yes, I believe that too. I think that instant spark, and "chemistry" as it's often called, allows the two people to connect so deeply. Two people can meet and they have that spark and they become infatuated with each other, a lot of which is short-lived emotions probably stemming from the novelty of the relationship. But since they talk so much and get to know each other so much in that time, as the short-term infatuation fades it can be replaced by a permanent bond between two people who truly care about each other and who usually know each other more than anyone else. Well, I guess I'm just repeating what you said.

everyone I guess, wants to be WANTED..NEEDED...DESIRED. Loved. I know I do

That's true. Of course, I'm sure each of us has people who love us even if we do not realize who and how much.

One of my teachers in high school--probably my favorite--once told the class that everyone needs more hugs. I think it is true like what you said here Star, and I am reminded of it by that "Free Hugs" video Sleepydumpling posted in the other thread. I think we often do not realize how much we all care about each other, whether we're friends, strangers, or romantic lovers. People need to be shown that they are wanted, needed, desired and loved.

You know what, I really do admire and respect all of you, and your opinions, but its never ever been that easy for me. And I'm beginning to think it never will. But I'm very happy for all of you that finds love..passion..sparks..its a beautiful thing is it not? I'm just an ugly duckling who prefers at this time to stay in my own little pond...I'll watch all you beautiful swans from a distance. But anyway I always give hugs, I take a few hours each week and I go and volunteer at one of our local nursing homes...I sometimes just walk around and sing and hug all my elderly friends. Hugs are great!

[KaeMartyndale]

Yes, I believe that too. I think that instant spark, and "chemistry" as it's often called, allows the two people to connect so deeply. Two people can meet and they have that spark and they become infatuated with each other, a lot of which is short-lived emotions probably stemming from the novelty of the relationship. But since they talk so much and get to know each other so much in that time, as the short-term infatuation fades it can be replaced by a permanent bond between two people who truly care about each other and who usually know each other more than anyone else.

The more I go through life, the more pessimistic I become about being able to find that kind of relationship. I've been in relationships with great people with not-enough spark. And, I've been in relationships with tonnes of spark with people who aren't suitable to me. It just makes me wonder if this 'balanced' relationship is unattainable.

[sleepydumpling]

It's funny Kae and Star. I think I'm WELL older than both of you, and probably have been single longer than you've been adults... and I don't feel that way at all. I have beautiful friends that I have that spark with, on all levels except the intimate and sexual, so I know it exists. Actually I know it exists because I have it with the man I've just had a relationship end with. And I don't know HOW, or WHEN, but I have this very weird gut instinct that things will sort themselves out between us, and that he is the one for me.

I can't explain it, but I've never had it quite this clear before, but when I stopped listening to my very scared, confused and critical head, and listened to the clear, strong voice from my gut/instinct... I just know.

[KaeMartyndale]

I can't explain it, but I've never had it quite this clear before, but when I stopped listening to my very scared, confused and critical head, and listened to the clear, strong voice from my gut/instinct... I just know.

I hope it works out for you!

[sleepydumpling]

Thank you Kae! I know it's gonna be ok.

[Tracey Neal]

And I don't know HOW, or WHEN, but I have this very weird gut instinct that things will sort themselves out between us, and that he is the one for me.

I can't explain it, but I've never had it quite this clear before, but when I stopped listening to my very scared, confused and critical head, and listened to the clear, strong voice from my gut/instinct... I just know.

Oh Sleepy D. I hope so!! True love!! Awesome! Gut instinct is always good thing I watched the hug video again, lol, it made my day!

[Hamlet]

Star and Kae!! lol!! i have to say you two seem to have ALOT of passion! just look at your writing here! lol, don't give up ladies!!

[Hamlet]

but then again who am i to talk, love SUCKS for me lately

[sleepydumpling]

So does anyone else fall in love with their friends? I don't mean romantic or sexual love, but something else still, that's like a giddiness and deep connection with that friend?

Cos I do. I have a newish friend who I am in complete and utter friend love with! I have old friends like that too, but it's just been kind of brought back to my attention because of the new case of it.

[knightss]

I think you can find a connection with anyone (male/female/alligator) that doesn't have to be sexual in nature but can be deep nonetheless. So i guess you can say i love some of my friends =)

[Tracey Neal]

So does anyone else fall in love with their friends? I don't mean romantic or sexual love, but something else still, that's like a giddiness and deep connection with that friend?

Cos I do. I have a newish friend who I am in complete and utter friend love with! I have old friends like that too, but it's just been kind of brought back to my attention because of the new case of it.

Kath, I want giddy! Umm, I've only had two relationships...and friends I don't know. I guess I need to make more and get out more.

[Tracey Neal]

But frivolous and flighty...whirly, twitterpated would be nice about right now haha Of course I think I'm naturally that way by myself...I guess I would be double dosing myself in this emotion if someone else brought it out of me too

[KaeMartyndale]

I definitely love some of my friends. I wouldn't say I feel giddy, but definitely totally comfortable. I have two friends from high school and no matter how little we get to see each other, or how far apart we live, when we get back together its EXACTLY how its always been. I totally love them both to death.

[Scott]

In a non-sexual, non-romantic way, I definitely love my friends. When my closest friends and I are together, we are childish and goofy, and it's fun.