Men Are So Romantic!

rachel5 · Post by **rachel5** » 13 Mar 2013, 02:28

Even though it rarely happens in real life, I still love hopeless romantic moments. I know people divorce, but I go for the happy endings. Weddings (especially fairy tale themed) are just so dreamy and romantic in my opinion <3. Like I said it's hard to get but I have fun dreaming it

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asmaahsan · Post by **asmaahsan** » 13 Apr 2013, 05:52

booklvr62 wrote:A wife being the romantic sort, sent her husband a text...

"If you are sleeping, send me your dreams. If you are , send me your smile. If you are eating, send me a bite. If you are drinking, send me a sip. If you are crying, send me your tears. I love you."

He texted back..."I'm on the john, what should I do?"

LOL!!!

lady_charlie · Post by **lady_charlie** » 19 Apr 2013, 21:10

I agree, Hades is a lucky person.

I myself experienced a very romantic moment on my birthday this year. My husband bought a card, took it out of the bag, signed it, and put it in the envelope.

Most years he just hands me the bag, so this was huge!

-- 19 Apr 2013, 21:12 --

asmaahsan wrote:
booklvr62 wrote:A wife being the romantic sort, sent her husband a text...

"If you are sleeping, send me your dreams. If you are , send me your smile. If you are eating, send me a bite. If you are drinking, send me a sip. If you are crying, send me your tears. I love you."

He texted back..."I'm on the john, what should I do?"
LOL!!!

That was actually my husband, who wrote that text.

asmaahsan · Post by **asmaahsan** » 20 Apr 2013, 02:29

lady_charlie · Post by **lady_charlie** » 20 Apr 2013, 07:26

Sometimes the most romantic thing a person is able to do is wash the dishes for a week after you have a baby, or make you oatmeal when you are sick. Candles and roses are nice, but after all I think I will keep what I have.
In school my friends did a play called The Curious Savage about a lady who had some mental issues. Someone in that play said, you never told me you loved me, and she said, yes, I did. When I told you to put your galoshes on because it was raining, I was telling you I love you. Just because some people can't say it, doesn't mean it isn't true.
Did it take me 8 pretty strange years to figure that out? Am I glad I stayed? Would it be nice to have what Hades has?

Fran · Post by **Fran** » 20 Apr 2013, 08:28

lady_charlie wrote:Sometimes the most romantic thing a person is able to do is wash the dishes for a week after you have a baby, or make you oatmeal when you are sick. Candles and roses are nice, but after all I think I will keep what I have.
In school my friends did a play called The Curious Savage about a lady who had some mental issues. Someone in that play said, you never told me you loved me, and she said, yes, I did. When I told you to put your galoshes on because it was raining, I was telling you I love you. Just because some people can't say it, doesn't mean it isn't true.
Did it take me 8 pretty strange years to figure that out? Am I glad I stayed? Would it be nice to have what Hades has?

@lady_charlie
I have very little time for the "violins & roses" nonsense ... give me a man who is there when the going gets tough, who changes the wheel for you because he saw it was flat or brings in the washing before it rains & doesn't expect a medal for it, who is secure & confident enough in himself not to feel he has to dominate, control or belittle, who treats you with respect & would never dream of betraying or being disloyal to you. After that I could care less if his mind is a blank slate when it comes to birthdays, annaversaries, valentines day or any other Hallmark invented occasion. Someone who is in your corner, has your back & is standing four square with you no matter what the world throws up ... that's my kind of man & I buy the flowers and chocolates myself (and share!).

lady_charlie · Post by **lady_charlie** » 20 Apr 2013, 09:02

Well, knowing what you've got and appreciating it is good.

I just hope Hades appreciates what she has! (insert smiley face)

asmaahsan · Post by **asmaahsan** » 20 Apr 2013, 09:58

Lady charlie, I have a guy, who buys me flowers, present on all occasions, takes me to lunches and dinners, even changes baby Nappies if asked but I don't Ask to keep the baby safe,

, and he also throws garbage before he goes to bed. He asks me not to work and our house is run by what he earns. In turn, I look after kids and support him in everything in life.
I can have as many hobbies I like, but he doesn't think it good that I earn money to support us. He is old fashioned and I can't be happier being a good for nothing eating fancy lunches, and feeling special and pampered. Touch wood.

I never asked for a romantic man, just a decent guy. I got it all. I was lucky, but just by luck.

Maud Fitch · Post by **Maud Fitch** » 25 Apr 2013, 23:52

Is romance hand-in-glove with love? Or is one a byproduct of the other? Perhaps it is a pursuit tool forgotten on conquest? Surely you are romantic to another when you love them? Or think you do. Romance can take many forms, from upcloseandpersonal to l o n g d i s t a n c e and there is the danger of overdoing it. Personally I'm all for a solid understanding relationship with the occasional romantic surprise.

asmaahsan · Post by **asmaahsan** » 26 Apr 2013, 07:14

Maud Fitch wrote:Is romance hand-in-glove with love? Or is one a byproduct of the other? Perhaps it is a pursuit tool forgotten on conquest? Surely you are romantic to another when you love them? Or think you do. Romance can take many forms, from upcloseandpersonal to l o n g d i s t a n c e and there is the danger of overdoing it. Personally I'm all for a solid understanding relationship with the occasional romantic surprise.

Romance is a part of love. Love is also being there for the other in their time of need, and not blasting them to pieces if they don't do what you want them to do. You can't over do it in love. Don't worry. You can't do enough actually as the other party has way to many expectations you usually die trying to fulfill but they stay unsatisfied.

If someone did that, blasted you for not doing their thing, it's a sign they don't love you, so it's best to not look for romance in the direction and explore other options.

Fran · Post by **Fran** » 26 Apr 2013, 08:41

asmaahsan wrote:
Maud Fitch wrote:Is romance hand-in-glove with love? Or is one a byproduct of the other? Perhaps it is a pursuit tool forgotten on conquest? Surely you are romantic to another when you love them? Or think you do. Romance can take many forms, from upcloseandpersonal to l o n g d i s t a n c e and there is the danger of overdoing it. Personally I'm all for a solid understanding relationship with the occasional romantic surprise.
Romance is a part of love. Love is also being there for the other in their time of need, and not blasting them to pieces if they don't do what you want them to do. You can't over do it in love. Don't worry. You can't do enough actually as the other party has way to many expectations you usually die trying to fulfill but they stay unsatisfied.

If someone did that, blasted you for not doing their thing, it's a sign they don't love you, so it's best to not look for romance in the direction and explore other options.

No, it's a sign you are dealing with an ignorant, rude & controlling idiot & my advice would be give him/her a wide berth.

Ant · Post by **Ant** » 26 Apr 2013, 13:47

You're my kind of gal Fran

Fran · Post by **Fran** » 26 Apr 2013, 14:02

Ant wrote:You're my kind of gal Fran

Oh Ant ... you say the sweetest things

asmaahsan · Post by **asmaahsan** » 27 Apr 2013, 22:49

Fran, I agree with you. I would give such a person as much berth a they like, just not in my life.

I don't believe in compromising in an abusive relationship. A person who emotionally supresses you is not the right type and will not love you, or romance you, as relevant to this topic, so in my opinion, one should dump them and move on, not expect them to improve over time.

In my seventeen years of marriage, my husband knows that I will walk out on him, with our three kids in my full custody, if he tried to control me against my will. I can do it. I am strong like that, so that keeps him in check.

Regarding romance, as they say, a leapord won't change it's spots, so it best to date a cute little rabbit instead.

Ant · Post by **Ant** » 28 Apr 2013, 05:23

"In my seventeen years of marriage, my husband knows that I will walk out on him, with our three kids in my full custody, if he tried to control me against my will. I can do it. I am strong like that, so that keeps him in check."

"Kept in check", you wouldn't have to walk out on me, I would have thrown you out years ago.