People treat you how you treat them?
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I have also noticed that doing good to others and being kind brings it back to us, even if not directly from the same person
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Treating others well so they treat you well would be ideal, but let's face it. That's not how the world works. You can't live expecting others to return the kindness and compassion you've offered to them, first of all, because if you did then how sincere would your actions be? if your motivation to treat others kindly is just receiving something in return then... are you really kind? Not to mention that on average, people tend to get a hold of the things you do for them and turn an act of kindness into an obligation. And there's the other side too, if someone treats me poorly, does that give me the right to be a bad person? Not really. If someone hits me, does that give me the right to return the punch? Consider that most of the times, such actions are returned not to the person that harmed us, but to innocent people.Scott wrote: ↑27 Dec 2015, 17:47 One theme I enjoy from the December book of the month, Burn Zones, is the idea that people will treat you how you treat them.
Jorge P. Newbery says as much a few times in Burn Zones. It is also demonstrated by the punk rockers in his parents house and for me most notably by the tough Ricky who helped Jorge retrieve his spilled coins.
Do you find this is also true in your experience? I do.
In fact, it seems to me the people who get treated poorly due to stereotypes and prejudice tend to respond kindly to respectful treatment even more than more up-tight people. I suppose they are so used to being treated poorly that even a moderate amount of respect and kindness goes a long way for them and is much appreciated.
I use to be a waiter and bartender for years. Unfortunately, servers tend to be very prejudiced, thinking certain types of people don't tip as well or give more trouble to the server. However, I think a lot of these prejudices are really self-fulfilling: If you treat the customer worse because you don't expect a good tip or are annoyed to have to take care of that kind of customer, is it any surprise that then the customer is not as nice as the customers you treat better? I'd say most of my best customers and best tips were from people who would be stereotyped as not being the best customers, and I think that's because they appreciated the good service that they rarely get. People who are used to getting the world handed to them on a silver platter probably won't appreciate it as much. What do you think?
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That being said, I believe that the reason why you should treat others well, as a human being, shouldn't be to expect that same treatment to be returned. Instead, i think we all should treat others with respect and kindness, just because of the inherent worth of a human being. Besides, it is harder to be disappointed if you don't expect anything in first place. Just because that's how integrity works.
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