Take responsability and relax.

Imstaci-1 · Post by **Imstaci-1** » 20 Aug 2020, 02:34

Often times we blame other people for the given negative state of our lives. We ought to try looking back. Perhaps it's possible that we enable some people to do what they did. Taking responsibility means we own a situation. That way we should be able to pull ourselves out of it because we know and embrace the mistakes and weaknesses, the positives and strengths we learned along the way.

Ify_Reviewer · Post by **Ify_Reviewer** » 20 Aug 2020, 04:16

I agree with the author. Taking responsibility for my life gives me a sense of control and the feeling of being in control actually takes off anxiety

Intel · Post by **Intel** » 20 Aug 2020, 17:55

Taking responsibility doesn't have to have a negative connotation. One can be responsible for the good and live/step up to being the one who takes credit for life's achievements.

mpsmaster · Post by **mpsmaster** » 20 Aug 2020, 19:39

djr6090 wrote: ↑19 Aug 2020, 09:18
itsrachna wrote: ↑18 Aug 2020, 02:47 Taking full responsibility of yourself is a difficult task but it is worth it. You come across your vulnerabilities , weaknesses which ultimately make you strongest.
It is funny how a vulnerability can also be a strength. I understand. There is always a flip side. Finding a balance between the best and worst of yourself gives a sense of freedom, which itself is relaxing. If my worst is only this bad, and my best is this far away, navigating between the two is not impossible. And I can relax.

This is true. Being strong can place you in control and in position to help others; being vulnerable can open the heart of others to help you if you are sincere in your weakness. The balance in this is essencial.

mpsmaster · Post by **mpsmaster** » 20 Aug 2020, 19:42

_tiyaah wrote: ↑19 Aug 2020, 10:06 For all actions there is an equal and opposite reaction that is the third law of motion I feel everyone should be able to take responsibility for any action they take and deal with the consequences

Very true! Many think that by not taking responsibility they are making no action, no decision, but they actually are! Everything we do creates a response, even when we do nothing. The law of motion you mentioned help us to see that as a metaphor to other circumstances in a great way.

21 Aug 2020, 12:39

I agree with the author, one must take charge and take responsibility for otheir mental state. However, this is easier said than done. Mental disorders have a way of altering an individual's state of mind.

Asunshine · Post by **Asunshine** » 21 Aug 2020, 12:59

Yes, taking full responsibility of your life can really help in avoiding stress and anxiety. Plan your life well, your time and schedules and eventually things will fall into place you won't to rush things, and this will improve yir overall health.

Guete Zuelo · Post by **Guete Zuelo** » 22 Aug 2020, 19:49

I agree with the sentiment taking responsibility over one's own life as a means of balance and anxiety relief. This is because it narrows down your worries. You have to acknowledge which things are within your control and let it be when it is not. It is difficult for the struggling but you have to start somewhere, right?

Joseph_ngaruiya · Post by **Joseph_ngaruiya** » 22 Aug 2020, 21:04

mpsmaster wrote: ↑15 Aug 2020, 20:32 Tonika632 wrote:
> That is actually my goal, but it is very hard to reach it. Usually,
> surrounding people do not take part, and that is the problem.

Very true! Another question is in line: how to be responsible when no one else around me is? This is very important since is a situation that we will face many times in life. Parents, for example, how many times they see negligent parents around them? But they have to be firm in their resolve.

Even though it may be okay to correct others if you notice a negligence in their responsibility, it's not advisable to approach everyone. We all have different ways to deal with stress and anxiety. If we however choose to do so, it should be done with caution.

Joseph_ngaruiya · Post by **Joseph_ngaruiya** » 22 Aug 2020, 21:06

mpsmaster wrote: ↑15 Aug 2020, 20:34 Anna Dougherty wrote:
> Taking full responsibility for your life is a good decision, although it
> can be stressful sometimes.

I think that's why we need the help of the other methods. I believe that when we take full responsibility our lives became simple, but it's a long way there.

Taking full responsibility is a daunting task that requires patience and understanding.

Joseph_ngaruiya · Post by **Joseph_ngaruiya** » 22 Aug 2020, 21:09

mpsmaster wrote: ↑15 Aug 2020, 20:37 Kevivas03 wrote:
> I agree 100 % because if you do not take responsiblity who will? The
> anxities we face are ultimately ours to deal with arent they? I have
> definitely applied this in my own life yes, no matter what life throws at
> me whether a death or disappointment I deal with it accodingly without
> letting that issue rule my life!

Beautful! Certainly death is one of the major stressors that everyone had or will have to face. The ones who delt with that and grew with the experience have jewls of wisdom and comfort to share.

Indeed, every experience carries with it a lesson. However, being in the moment and connecting with that situation is what builds confidence and resilience.

Joseph_ngaruiya · Post by **Joseph_ngaruiya** » 22 Aug 2020, 21:11

Howlan wrote: ↑15 Aug 2020, 23:23 Joseph_ngaruiya wrote:
> Charity Damaris wrote:
> > The author is right. Better evaluation of ones weaknesses and coming up
> > with ways of dealing with them is being responsible.After responsibility
> > comes relaxation because one is sure of what the consequences will be.
>
> Wow, don't you find it resourceful?
> Gustavo shares this skill in a straightforward approach. And yes, you become
> cautioned when you take responsibility for current and past flaws.

It is really a resourceful idea to overcome the odds. Evaluating yourself to understand what ideas are stressful to you is a great way to reduce stress. It is taking responsibility for these things that help you.

In addition, part of taking responsibility is knowing when it's okay to share a problem and when it's okay to deal with it alone.

Joseph_ngaruiya · Post by **Joseph_ngaruiya** » 22 Aug 2020, 21:15

Howlan wrote: ↑15 Aug 2020, 23:24 Joseph_ngaruiya wrote:
> Tonika632 wrote:
> > That is actually my goal, but it is very hard to reach it. Usually,
> > surrounding people do not take part, and that is the problem.
> I understand your concern. But as highlighted in this book, stress and anxiety affect
> an individual. For that reason, it's a personal responsibility to find help. If you
> find a certain group is not responsive, try another one or a different approach.

Yes, but it should not a stressful practice. Take your time and find things you are comfortable doing then build on those things to keep your mind calm and contrate on your goal.

Sure, if you find one workable remedy after trying different methods that Kinrys has given, you should continuously practice it. But as you gradually progress it should be clear that the method has more pros to cons.

Joseph_ngaruiya · Post by **Joseph_ngaruiya** » 22 Aug 2020, 21:17

Slater678 wrote: ↑16 Aug 2020, 02:38 I think it means the subject of avoiding anxiety and seeking balance is a personal responsibility and can easily be achieved if one has the necessary knowledge and motivation to do it.

By reading such resourceful books like this one by Gustavo, it expounds your mind to numerous ways of coping with stress and anxiety. In doing so, your steps to taking responsibility are easier. It's in that way that you are able to relax.

Justine Ocsebio · Post by **Justine Ocsebio** » 22 Aug 2020, 21:20

I agree with the author. I do believe that taking responsibility of your actions makes you mindful of your behavior and decisions and it is also helpful in keeping your emotions in check.