Hope is often mistaken for simply wishful thinking.

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hope involves more than wishful thinking; it often includes a sense of belief, optimism, and a willingness to work towards positive outcomes.
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The book 'Fireproof Happiness' stands out with its authentic and relatable voice, offering insightful and grounded advice for those seeking peace of mind."

And yes, hope is sometimes mistaken for wishful thinking. Hope in itself is an amazing emotion, it is not supposed to be misunderstood or misinterpret.
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Wishful thinking is passive. It means that you are wishing that things would have been different but not taking any action. Let me give you an example: I am weak in a certain area of my life and I want to be better. I can either take action to continuously improve or I can wish I was better. Some people keep wishing. Wishing is also like not acknowledging the truth and hoping that things will automatically become better.
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I agree with the underlined concept. Being active and intentional with what we want, gives us the best chances to get it. If we just passively wish something, without taking action, then we need to be very lucky to get anything at all :)
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Yeah, wishing and hoping are very different things in my opinion. Wishing for something makes it less likely that you will get it because it tends to be a passive type of thinking "wouldn't it be nice if I had such and such?" as opposed to "I hope I can get such and such" which if you're not already doing what you need to do to get it, diminishes your hope.
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I believe there are two sides to it: one where you only wish and there's no action driving to get you to that goal;
the other, wherein you are helpless - for example, your wish to have someone love you, the way you want is completely outside your control. You can try as much as you can, but you cannot force the power of free will. Here's where it can remain to be only wishful thinking.
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Wishing is passive just mare thinking and imaginations but hope is active it displays in our actions and how we interact with people and situations around us.
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I also agree with the author that wishing that something will happen is more passive and resigned than hoping for it to happen. Hope tends to imply more belief than wishing does and also suggests that a person is going to put in some effort to make something happen, whereas wishing suggests a desire for something to just happen without having to do anything to make it happen.
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Post by Alexander Victoria »

He’s so right. Wishing one’s condition will be good doesn’t make it go away unless the necessary works are done. Hope is renewing. It gives new insight while wishing is more like resignations or laziness.
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Wishing is passive, A person could sit and wish for a million things and not take any steps toward it, but hope is action in waiting.
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Sure, this book made me realize the difference between hope and wish. Hope involve a goal, a plan, a mindset towards something.
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Post by Colleado Keana Rose »

I agree with your perspective. Distinguishing between wishing and hoping aligns with the active and passive nature of these concepts. Individuals often undertake tasks, embrace risks, and actively hope for favorable outcomes, emphasizing that hope is not merely about resignation but involves proactive engagement with life's uncertainties.
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I think that whether or not somebody agrees with this statement depends a lot upon one’s definition of “wishing” and “hoping.” For me, I often associate “wishing” with fairy tales, such as “wishing” upon a star or “wishing” for something crazy to happen. As for “hope,” I use it more often when I’m talking about things that I have worked hard to achieve. “I hope I get an A on this test because I studied so hard for it,” or “I hope to one day become a lawyer.” I think that the author is also viewing these objective definitions from the same lens, and it’s all about the context in which the word is used, so from my viewpoint there is a difference.
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Post by Martha Lopez 4 »

This book cleared me on this area in my life . Wish is quite different from hope. We making wish without putting action is useless. Hope is making a plan and taking action to see that plan get achieved.
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Post by Kshitija Sonawane »

I don't think I agree with that. I think that hoping for your wishes to come true is natural. Kids do it every Christmas, don't they? However, when it comes to problems and there seems to be no solution, I don't think wishing will be a problem. I don't think they are much different in that aspect.
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