Things I wish people wouldn't say

[debbiebee]

Okay, so I'm having a moan, but phrases that irritate me and quite displace my normal sunny disposition include

'Cheer up, it may never happen'. In the first place, how does the person saying it know that something awful hasn't happened, and that it's very insensitive, and in the second place, do we really need to wander round with a cheesy grin to prove we're not grumps??

'Worse things happen at sea'. This is undeniably true, but if the point of reference in my life is to be the Titanic, then that doesn't bode well...!!

'Any room for a little one'? I should stress that I'm a large lady myself, so I'm not being fat-ist, but why is it that people who say it never ARE little ones?

'Nothing embarrasses us'. This one is specific to doctors especially ones writing in magazines. No disrespect, but if you want to poke around in my private parts it's not YOUR embarrassment that bothers me!


Well, that's enough for now. Any other pet hates?

[ALynnPowers]

I get really annoyed with the phrase "you should have..." and then continue to give advice about something you should have done in a previous event. Worthless advice. The moment has passed and it's too late to do anything now. It's basically like saying, "You're an idiot for not handling it properly at the time."

[beth9900]

I suffer from severe migraines and I happy being told "Smile, it will make you feel better.". Uh no not really. I really want to be laying in a dark room but I am forcing myself to be nice and spend time with you. If I am frowning leave me along.

[Cee-Jay Aurinko]

Remember the Joker Question? "Why So Serious?" i HATE it when some happy-always-smiling person to stop looking so serious!

1. No one is always happy (unless smoking the ynw)
2. Its my face and I'll do with it what I want.
3. If I'm angry for some reason, and you're asking me, why are you angry, then I get more angry.

So, please Happy Person, don't do the Joker thing with me.

[gracepine11]

I hate people telling me "You're too young to know" when people younger than me know.

[bluemel4]

Saying irregardless. It's not a friggin word people! STOP USING IT.

[suzy1124]

This too shall pass...( you wanna bet! )

I'm " all about ", yeah right!, most often than not they're exactly the opposite of who they perceive themselves to be...

[gali]

The phrase I told you so...

[Ealasaid]

I suffer from severe migraines and I happy being told "Smile, it will make you feel better.". Uh no not really. I really want to be laying in a dark room but I am forcing myself to be nice and spend time with you. If I am frowning leave me along.

I am a migraine sufferer as well and being told "It's just a headache, pop a couple of aspirin and it will go away" makes me murderous. Um, no. It is not just a headache and trust me - a couple of aspirin will not begin to touch the anguish that a migraine can cause.

[OnCloudCassie]

I'm from Baltimore and I can't stand when people say" I know that's right"!

[Fran]

"Offer it up" drives me

[zeldas_lullaby]

Remember the Joker Question? "Why So Serious?" i HATE it when some happy-always-smiling person to stop looking so serious!

1. No one is always happy (unless smoking the ynw)
2. Its my face and I'll do with it what I want.
3. If I'm angry for some reason, and you're asking me, why are you angry, then I get more angry.

So, please Happy Person, don't do the Joker thing with me.

When I was in middle school, I was walking home past a construction site, and one of the workers said to me, "You look like you haven't smiled in a week." GRRRR. I have that exact same pet peeve! And you know what REALLY bums me out? Is when I feel perfectly fine, maybe I'm thinking about something or whatever, and someone says it. "What's wrong? You look so gloomy." And it's like, no, I feel fine. Or I DID, until you asked me that!!

-- 25 Apr 2015, 02:11 --

I was at the doctor's office once, in the waiting room. And I ran into my late grandmother's neighbors. The wife said to me, "What are you in to see the doctor for?" And I was like, REALLY? To this day, I wish I'd said, "I have the flesh-eating virus," and then sat down next to her. Oh well.

-- 25 Apr 2015, 02:12 --

Geez, I've never had a migraine, but I'd never be so insensitive as to call it a "headache." I'm miserable with a headache, so I can't imagine having a migraine--must be just awful! It's just so darned dismissive to be like, "Take a pill, you whiner." GRRRR.

-- 25 Apr 2015, 02:18 --

You know what I really hate? Is when people say, "Take care." I get it in context, such as, "Take care of my baby," or that sort of thing. But just "take care," is laced with the implied message that something's wrong with you. Fine if you're comforting someone at a funeral. "Take care of yourself." Not so fine if it's a casual interaction. "Bye." "Bye. Take care." And then that meaningful look, like, "I see inside your very soul and you're profoundly miserable, and you need to be happy again." So darned condescending.

-- 25 Apr 2015, 02:23 --

Another one is "Thanks!"
"No problem."

No, no, you're supposed to say, "You're welcome!"
"No problem" sounds like you're belittling the work you did for someone in a pathetic attempt at humility.

"thanks!"
"Oh, it was nothing, really." And you just brought in several armfulls of firewood. Fake modesty!

"Thanks!"
"You're welcome!"

-- 25 Apr 2015, 02:27 --

"Hang in there."

I hate that expression. I'd get so upset by it as a teen, many years ago. Like, "hang in there" was the solution to my toxic living environment and my emotional disequilibrium. I finally got so POed by it that I'd reply, "I am hanging... myself, later on tonight."

They said, "That's genuinely not funny."
And I'd say, "Then quit telling me to hang in there."

-- 25 Apr 2015, 02:32 --

I hate people telling me "You're too young to know" when people younger than me know.

You tell 'em, GracePine. If you know it, you know it.

[suzy1124]

Don't do it!...{ hell I won't )....

[PashaRu]

@zeldas_lullaby...I think I'm a little afraid to talk to you now...

[Gravy]

Not me!
I'm storing that last one for later