View on relationships

[gali]

I'm with you all the way on this one! I just don't understand it when people suggest that the abused should stay.

I don't understand it either.

[MsDree]

I support both views. Nadia is doing right to divorce his husband because it'll inflict on his son's view on relationship and family life as he grow up. Despite he might live without a father figure, he'll be better living with a mother that will love him unconditionally.

For Yasser, I don't know how to say this. Living an unfulfilling relationship even though for the sake of your children, i think it isn't it either. But he could discuss with his wife of this, and perhaps compromise even better, learn to love your other half. Because even if you stayed in the relationship for the sake of your children, they would wonder why their parents doesn't love each other.

This is just my views on this matter.

[Alice Heritage]

I'd definitely go with Nadia. Children might be affected by a parental split in the short term, but over the long term they are better off. It's more important for them to have two loving parents than parents who are together.

[Brenda Kiptim]

I believe that abuse is never the same as unfulfilling. On that note at no point should one stay in a abusive relationship; especially not for children who do not need to be in such an environment. For unfulfilling, I think that the phrase "love is a verb" comes to mind and you can always rekindle the flame that put you in the relationship find; of course the partner needs to be willing

[Rupabaruah]

Any kind of relationship, be it girlfriend- boyfriend relationship or husband -Wife relationship. First thing in that relationship is love and above that respect for each other. If any of the one thing is missing, then that relationship cannot work. An abusive relationship means either there is no love or respect is missing. And I believe no-one should remain in that kind of relationship. A broken home is far better than getting abused by your partner in front of your kids. No one wants a broken family but sometimes to live with Self respect it becomes necessary

[Ellie Gatillo]

I would have to choose Nadia's side. It is painful to stay in an abusive relationship. It tears you up inside and out. It strips away your confidence, your happiness, your love, and sometimes even your sanity. I know it would be difficult for a child to grow up in a broken family, but I believe it would be more difficult for a child to grow in a loveless and abusive home.

[cechappell]

I do not think someone should stay in an abusive relationship. It harms the mind, which in turn makes you act differently. If there are children involved it will likely do them more harm than good because as they get older they will begin to understand what is happening better.

[Robert Koech]

Nadia and Yaser are two fascinating characters.Both are used to bring out one theme against abuse

-- 19 Jul 2017, 16:44 --

Relationship is understanding.Abusive relationship is against the laws,
Take an example of a couple,
There are many things a woman can do a man cannot do and vice versa
Therefore marriage should be a happy thing.A marriage which begins from love not lust accident

[Ikechukwu Echebiri]

The core purpose of a relationship is to enable us actualize and become fulfilled, though it goes deeper than this. If a relationship is going to wreck our lives, pose harm to us or not enable us achieve the core essence of entering into one, then its not worth it. An abusive relationship should not be acceptable at all. There are a lot more things we can endure in relationship, not abuse. An abusive relationship implies absence of relationship in the first place.

[yellosteel]

There is a saying in my part of the world that says"when two elephants fight ,it is the grass that suffers." I won't be part of an abusive relationship neither would I support same for the sake of the kid(s),but the fact is incontrovertible that "children" are mostly the victims of such relationships. While I sympathize with Nadia's view, I did respect Yasser more for his willingness in sacrificing his honor just to keep the home - front together. However,marriage should not be seen as a do-or- die affair while an abusive relationship also should not be encouraged. The onus lies with the two of them to sit down as matured adults to iron out their differences, if they aren't doing it for themselves then at least for the sake of their son.

[Michaelsyv]

I am very much on Nadia's side as well because staying in an abusive relationship may lead in to raising the kids unhealthy way. we are first God's to our children what ever impact you pit in them they will never depart from it

[Pm7lucas]

I would absolutely never let someone abuse me for any reason, kids or not.

Depending on the circumstances, I think children can be damaged more by a terrible home life where the parents are always fighting or there is abuse in the relationship or whatever. Too much stress or fear is going to take it's toll on the kids!

Paula

[Shamim Bilha]

My child will always be my first priority no matter how bad life sucks. So i will protect him at any cost no matter what.

[meteku4]

I think that both choosing to stay in an abusive relationship and leaving the relationship have great consequences (whether positive or negative). That said, it is always difficult to conclude when you bear in mind the varying conditions that may prevail. However, once the couple are already together, they should continue to stay together; but each one must be humble and willing enough to seek amicable solution to their problem. Divorce always comes with other troubling issues.

[Shaneek]

I agree with Nardia. we are not placed on this earth to be unhappy and abused, no matter the circumstances, i believe e can always find a solution to our problems.