What is the best way to overcome abuse and trauma?

Samuel John · Post by **Samuel John** » 17 Apr 2018, 18:03

The best way to deal with a trauma is. To visit a cycologist, that will assist by trying to vanish the scenario that you have ever experienced.

Stormy76 · Post by **Stormy76** » 17 Apr 2018, 19:44

As a victim of verbal and physical abuse you always find ways of coping with the trauma. Most of the time I wrapped myself up in the kids and their activities and there was also work. I never sought counseling I sought a way out. I have always had a love for reading but did not have much time for it during my trying times, but I have picked it back up now that I am out of that situation! I never lost faith in humanity for the actions of one person. And I never lost my trust in people.

Zapsematt · Post by **Zapsematt** » 17 Apr 2018, 23:24

Natalie fighting back mistreatment and finding a refuge in art is one way to overcome abuse and trauma. The alcoholic father is not the only one responsible in the family equation. The mother is equally responsible. Instead of letting her eldest child raise up to the challenge of protecting her and her siblings, the mother should have done that instead. It's her responsibility as a mother to protect her children. The best way to respond to abuse and other traumatic experience is I don't think it's difficult for a writer to describe abusive situations if the writer follows the right method which are : (1) experience. If the writer doesn't have experience then the writer should seek out experience from those who overcame their abuse and trauma. No knowledge is small. (2) Seek out understanding from the professional. Those who study these kinds of things (Psychologist).

tevinamunga · Post by **tevinamunga** » 18 Apr 2018, 01:36

first of all give yourself time and partial activity's to engage your mind in a more optimistic way

Anthony Jude · Post by **Anthony Jude** » 18 Apr 2018, 03:47

Well for me I would say the mother is too be blamed for everything, because it is clear today that mothers always protect their children.leaving her child to protect herself from her father is not good at all.there are a lot of novels you can read to help you with situations like this,try and read them it will help you.

anibros20 · Post by **anibros20** » 18 Apr 2018, 03:51

We all react in different ways to trauma,
experiencing a wide range of physical
and emotional reactions. .... Cognitive-
behavioral therapy helps you process
and evaluate your thoughts and feelings
about a trauma .

tirzahhawkins · Post by **tirzahhawkins** » 18 Apr 2018, 08:52

Where is the mother in this situation? I hold her equally responsible for allowing the man into the house. She is probably being abused too, but she is the adult in this situation and needs to stand up for her daughter.
The daughter should talk to a school counselor, trusted teacher, pastor, friend's parent. Abusers should be stopped.

frogie · Post by **frogie** » 18 Apr 2018, 10:13

The way people react to different situations is different. The way I might react to a particular situation might be different from the way someone else might react to that particular situation. I this kind of occurrence the best thing such person should do is to seek God's help by praying and doing the rightful things,and seek help from experienced people,and actually counselors. And mothers should also be careful with the kind of father they leave their female children with.And she should be careful with how she relate with her step father.

dontecia jackson · Post by **dontecia jackson** » 18 Apr 2018, 12:01

get help by someone like a consuler

Pvs08 · Post by **Pvs08** » 18 Apr 2018, 14:31

Speaking to a professional therapist or simply talking to a well trusted individual or family member can ease the burden. It is a fact proven that talking about your feelings or venting easesthe trauma

Post by **Kibet Hillary** » 18 Apr 2018, 16:00

Those little that we enjoy indeed can help us find some happiness and also help to relieve some pressure exerted upon us by some actions such as abuse.

NevaehsMommy · Post by **NevaehsMommy** » 18 Apr 2018, 16:09

I think that it takes time and a lot of strength to over come things like this. It takes years sometimes but everything has a end and it will get better at some point

Irishmom · Post by **Irishmom** » 18 Apr 2018, 16:45

I suffered emotional abuse by my father, and he physically abused my mom and brother. I grew up scared of men, afraid of loss, and thinking I was fat and dumb. I got incredibly lucky and met a kind man in college who was willing to stick with me through my growing pains as I got over it. I also had two great therapists. I am so happy now. It is possible to overcome it.

Zapsematt · Post by **Zapsematt** » 18 Apr 2018, 22:37

Best way to overcome abuse is by believing in the words I CAN because there is power in that words so anyone who is passing through horrible traumatic experience should also believe I'm God and see good things in what others people do which is not against the law of the land thanks

sophialara · Post by **sophialara** » 19 Apr 2018, 01:54

I feel like the best way to overcome abuse so to avoid thinking about them too deeply. Yes we know that memories of these events are painful

we might try to:

1. find new relationships with people who give us the things we didn’t get from our damaged parents

2. attach ourselves to people who remind us those who hurt us and fix them as a way of vicariously repairing our damaged parents

3. change our parents so they will finally give us what we needed when we were young