L.O.V.E. ....Cupid's Choke Hold (What does it mean to you?)

awelker · Post by **awelker** » 28 Mar 2008, 21:48

wow. that is truly amazing. i wish all relationships were like that, see there goes the hopeless romantic me again.

dejona84 · Post by **dejona84** » 28 Mar 2008, 21:49

pOoF bAbY wrote:
Hamlet wrote:
pOoF bAbY wrote:im in my 20's and i've been going out with this 1 guy since i was 12....lol but he is so sweet
that in itself is amazing! wow since you were 12? gosh.
I know a long time.....tonite is the exact nite we held hands for the first time 9 years ago...!!

The fact that you can remember that amazes me! Course I have a horrible memory!

I remember stuff like the first kiss and such. Course my husband is not a big hand holder.

Hamlet · Post by **Hamlet** » 28 Mar 2008, 21:51

pOoF bAbY wrote:
Hamlet wrote:
pOoF bAbY wrote:im in my 20's and i've been going out with this 1 guy since i was 12....lol but he is so sweet
that in itself is amazing! wow since you were 12? gosh.
I know a long time.....tonite is the exact nite we held hands for the first time 9 years ago...!!

that is unreal. but hey i'm happy for you, thats true love right there!
so star where ever you might be i found someone who might know what love is, and its poof baby!

pOoF bAbY · Post by **pOoF bAbY** » 28 Mar 2008, 21:53

dejona84 wrote:
pOoF bAbY wrote:
Hamlet wrote: that in itself is amazing! wow since you were 12? gosh.
I know a long time.....tonite is the exact nite we held hands for the first time 9 years ago...!!
The fact that you can remember that amazes me! Course I have a horrible memory! I remember stuff like the first kiss and such. Course my husband is not a big hand holder.

I have a bullentin board i write every thing on We started dating Novemeber 16, 1997

awelker · Post by **awelker** » 28 Mar 2008, 21:54

i'd say she has it pretty down pat.

pOoF bAbY · Post by **pOoF bAbY** » 28 Mar 2008, 21:54

Hamlet wrote:
pOoF bAbY wrote:
Hamlet wrote: that in itself is amazing! wow since you were 12? gosh.
I know a long time.....tonite is the exact nite we held hands for the first time 9 years ago...!!
that is unreal. but hey i'm happy for you, thats true love right there!
so star where ever you might be i found someone who might know what love is, and its poof baby!

Thanks....

Hamlet · Post by **Hamlet** » 28 Mar 2008, 21:58

pOoF bAbY wrote:
Hamlet wrote:
pOoF bAbY wrote: I know a long time.....tonite is the exact nite we held hands for the first time 9 years ago...!!
that is unreal. but hey i'm happy for you, thats true love right there!
so star where ever you might be i found someone who might know what love is, and its poof baby!
Thanks....

no problem, you young ladies enjoy your night, can't wait to meet star.

awelker · Post by **awelker** » 28 Mar 2008, 22:03

night ham. hope yours is enjoyable too.

pOoF bAbY · Post by **pOoF bAbY** » 28 Mar 2008, 22:04

nite ham!!

Tracey Neal · Post by **Tracey Neal** » 28 Mar 2008, 22:12

Hamlet wrote:
pOoF bAbY wrote:
Hamlet wrote: that is unreal. but hey i'm happy for you, thats true love right there!
so star where ever you might be i found someone who might know what love is, and its poof baby!
Thanks....
no problem, you young ladies enjoy your night, can't wait to meet star.

Hello Ham

What a name

You'll go good with cheese and bread there dude

But I just wanted some insight...I'm lost. Love at best has disappointed me. But thanks bro for caring!

dejona84 · Post by **dejona84** » 28 Mar 2008, 22:20

Star wrote: But I just wanted some insight...I'm lost. Love at best has disappointed me. But thanks bro for caring!

Been there! Hate the hopeless feeling. It is usually after that, that love finds a way to surprise you!

sleepydumpling · Post by **sleepydumpling** » 29 Mar 2008, 04:45

Whoa!! Spooky, I just blogged on the very subject! Instead of typing it out again, here's my blog... (original can be found at http://thesleepydumpling.blogspot.com)

Just been thinking about life and relationships of late. Mostly because of a few conversations I have had recently, things have been ticking over in my head.

There seems to be a perception out there that being in a relationship is the completion of one's journey in life. That's not to say it's seen as the END of one's life, but as the zenith, the pinnacle that all need to achieve to become complete. I constantly hear people say "Only one thing would make my life better... to meet The One." Or "Having someone by my side would make life complete for me."

It's got me thinking. Is that what life is really about? Just being paired up and then it's all groovy? Do people really think that just because they've found a partner, their life will suddenly get all easy and they won't have any times where they struggle, or where things could be better? Does that mean because I am single right now, that I am somehow deficient in some way?

I don't think so. I think there is only one thing that can make my life better. Me. Just like the only thing that can make your life better is YOU. My life isn't completed by having a partner. It's lovely, it's something I do want, but not to complete my life. It's there to compliment my life. Life certainly won't stop having it's "shitola" moments, where it's difficult or confusing or frightening, if I have a partner.

Which brings me to the thought that there are whole swathes of people out there that are either putting their lives on hold until they find a partner, or they're not appreciating the fabbo things about the life they are having as a single person. They're always focused on what they don't have, rather than what actually IS in their lives. I'm guilty of going through those phases too, but I've learnt over the past... well God knows how many years, that focusing on what IS, right here and now is far healthier and more satisfying than constantly lamenting, even in a jocular or wistful way, on any perceived lack in my life.

Now don't get me wrong, it's not that I don't want a relationship. I do, very much so. I not only think it would be a lovely thing to share my life with someone, but I do believe that I have a LOT to bring to another person as part of a relationship. I want a family. I want romance (I am a hopeless romantic!) I want that intimate companionship. I want sex! Ok, I know, TMI there people huh?

But that said, I don't think those things are going to complete my life in any way. They'll certainly be rather delicious add-ons, but life is still rich and full and amazing without them. And in the areas that it could use some improvement, well that's my responsibility, not anyone else's. Besides, what an awful lot of pressure to put on another person! I certainly wouldn't want to be responsible for the completion, the pinnacle, the zenith of anyone else's life! I want to be a complimentary feature of their lives. An enhancement feature perhaps.

Life is what you make it people. Not what other people bring to it.

Libellus · Post by **Libellus** » 29 Mar 2008, 07:27

With you 100% SleepyD. You have to live with yourself and be happy before you can live with someone else.

Tracey Neal · Post by **Tracey Neal** » 29 Mar 2008, 08:15

Thanks ladies, I know that too. And I do. I'm happy. But love still eludes me at best.

Hamlet · Post by **Hamlet** » 29 Mar 2008, 08:42

Star wrote:Thanks ladies, I know that too. And I do. I'm happy. But love still eludes me at best.

i thought about it all night, i think love is alive. its in us, our hearts, the very core of our souls. i agree with these ladies as well. don't let somebody make you feel less or define who you are, you sound heartbroken star? you feel like a single 'star' out there in the cosmos do you? being a guy myself, and hating to admit this, but so many guys are jerks! they play games, well women do too, i know that. but i can't stand guys that prey on women they know wear their heart openly. and sometimes forever ruin a persons idea of what love is. i guess a person can get kicked around so much that they lose sight of what love, when its right and 'real' can be. there are alot of guys who go around as if they're knight's in shining armour, but they just end up being big bad wolf in sheeps clothing. being a guy i now some true dogs out there!! fake!