View on relationships

Joseph Musugu · Post by **Joseph Musugu** » 06 Jul 2017, 08:30

A good relationship is the one which both parties are in love and be responsible for each other

Graceybliss · Post by **Graceybliss** » 06 Jul 2017, 12:09

My stand on abuse in relationship never changes, how do you think those children feel when they see their mum abused what will be the effect on their later lives? Most children get scared of relationships because of how they've seen those that claim to love each other abuse either of themselves

gali · Post by **gali** » 06 Jul 2017, 12:10

Joseph Musugu wrote:A good relationship is the one which both parties are in love and be responsible for each other

It sure is!

-- July 6th, 2017, 8:10 pm --

Graceybliss wrote:My stand on abuse in relationship never changes, how do you think those children feel when they see their mum abused what will be the effect on their later lives? Most children get scared of relationships because of how they've seen those that claim to love each other abuse either of themselves

I think the same as you.

masterhawk88 · Post by **masterhawk88** » 06 Jul 2017, 15:22

I'm gonna go in to what I said earlier a bit more. I again haven't read the book and never will, but here's my take on abuse on also on a loveless marriage.

Abuse is deplorable. I've been there. A father who abuses his wife WILL abuse his children and vice versa. I've got the scars to prove it. Run away, and take the kid with you.

A marriage that is simply unhappy however can be fixed with effort on both sides. Quarrels can be overcame, romance can be rekindled, and love can be found. I'd stay in an unhappy marriage for my kids until I'd exhausted every attempt at making it work.

gali · Post by **gali** » 07 Jul 2017, 00:17

masterhawk88 wrote:I'm gonna go in to what I said earlier a bit more. I again haven't read the book and never will, but here's my take on abuse on also on a loveless marriage.

Abuse is deplorable. I've been there. A father who abuses his wife WILL abuse his children and vice versa. I've got the scars to prove it. Run away, and take the kid with you.

A marriage that is simply unhappy however can be fixed with effort on both sides. Quarrels can be overcame, romance can be rekindled, and love can be found. I'd stay in an unhappy marriage for my kids until I'd exhausted every attempt at making it work.

I am sorry you experienced it.

I agree that one should not leave his/her unsuccessful marriage till s/he exhausted all attempts to fix it. Yet, Not all unhappy relationships can be fixed!

Aohanlon86 · Post by **Aohanlon86** » 07 Jul 2017, 00:47

Joseph Musugu wrote:A good relationship is the one which both parties are in love and be responsible for each other

I agree with you completely

ms1864 · Post by **ms1864** » 07 Jul 2017, 01:29

Personally, I wouldn't stay in a relationship if it is just destructive. But at the same time I have family members who have chosen to stay together for the sake of their children. In such cases, their lives revolve around their children and they find happiness in other things.
I have learnt that a relationship with a partner is not the only way to find happiness and contentment in life. There are other ways....many other ways.

Ssinghal · Post by **Ssinghal** » 07 Jul 2017, 07:21

I support Yasser since he is the perfect example of the sacrifice made by parents for the well-being of the children. If Yasser had gone for a divorce, it would have adversely affected the mental and emotional stability of the kids.

Sindhu Srinath · Post by **Sindhu Srinath** » 07 Jul 2017, 07:42

This is a very tough question to answer. I have been in neither, so I don't have any firsthand view. I believe each would act according to the situation. Sometimes letting go is easier. But maybe sometimes, you just feel like holding on because of too much love. I strongly believe that the situation decides the action.

Donnavila Marie01 · Post by **Donnavila Marie01** » 07 Jul 2017, 08:59

The break-up of parents punches the child with thousands of volts that may never heal for the rest of the kid's life. I still prefer to fix a broken relationship for the sake of my kids if it can still be fixed.

Post by **kandscreeley** » 07 Jul 2017, 09:06

If it is a matter of abuse, then I would say get out. Abuse shouldn't be tolerated no matter what. It's bad for the kids as well as the parents. If it is a matter of just being "unfulfilling"? Well, that's something entirely different. I'd probably say stick it out and see if you can repair the marriage.

gali · Post by **gali** » 07 Jul 2017, 09:06

Donnavila Marie01 wrote:The break-up of parents punches the child with thousands of volts that may never heal for the rest of the kid's life. I still prefer to fix a broken relationship for the sake of my kids if it can still be fixed.

I agree, but I think it hurts the kid just as much to see his parents fight.

-- July 7th, 2017, 5:08 pm --

kandscreeley wrote:If it is a matter of abuse, then I would say get out. Abuse shouldn't be tolerated no matter what. It's bad for the kids as well as the parents. If it is a matter of just being "unfulfilling"? Well, that's something entirely different. I'd probably say stick it out and see if you can repair the marriage.

I agree. I also agree that one should try to fix the marriage. However, if one can't repair it, he shouldn't stay.

Mahsa Martin · Post by **Mahsa Martin** » 08 Jul 2017, 09:59

I support Nadia since I guess we all have seen couples who have stayed together just for the kids and unfortunately have raised unhappy children. I think a mature friendly goodbye works much better for the kids, than a bitter married life full of anger and pain.

gali · Post by **gali** » 08 Jul 2017, 10:09

VioletMask wrote:I support Nadia since I guess we all have seen couples who have stayed together just for the kids and unfortunately have raised unhappy children. I think a mature friendly goodbye works much better for the kids, than a bitter married life full of anger and pain.

I certainly agree with your last line!

Mahsa Martin · Post by **Mahsa Martin** » 08 Jul 2017, 11:41

gali wrote:
VioletMask wrote:I support Nadia since I guess we all have seen couples who have stayed together just for the kids and unfortunately have raised unhappy children. I think a mature friendly goodbye works much better for the kids, than a bitter married life full of anger and pain.
I certainly agree with your last line!