What Makes You Different?
- Sindhu Srinath
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Re: What Makes You Different?
Thanks for sharing. It must have been very hard for you to say this. But I sympathize with you. I hope that you find people who accept you the way you are and cherish your friendship.Rachel1019 wrote:I am completely normal, or at least on the outside I am. On the inside is a whole other story. I have a congenital hiatal hernia, inflammatory bowel syndrome, and am prone to developing ulcers. I am only 23 years old, and I have had all of these problems for years. It made it difficult for me as a high school student, when I was constantly sick and missed a lot of fun activities from being sick. So, while people don't see that anything is wrong with me, they still know that something is not right with me, and I do get judged for that.
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Thanks for sharing. I know how people tease visually impaired people. I pray that you have the strength to be thick-skinned and not care about what other people say. May you have a happy life!Christine_B wrote:I'm visually impaired and I feel like I can relate to a lot of people who have disabilities or physical limitations regardless of what kind it is.
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Thanks for sharing. These traits make you special, not weird. I'm happy to know that you have learned to laugh it off, but I hope no teasing has affected you. Stay strong!lacos2693 wrote:Yeah I think everyone has something which makes them different but some people are more self conscious than others. I have a squint at times, my teeth used to be crazy (looked like a beaver), I'm taller than most people I meet and I sneeze in the loudest, squeakiest way possible. I learned to just go with most things (the sneeze for example) so I can laugh about it now but some things I'm still very self conscious of.
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Knowing this does not change much. I can speak as objectively as I want for others, but at the end of the day I will still be self conscious about the things I view as abnormal about myself. There are plenty. One of the things that often messes with me is the fact that I can't figure out my own cultural identity. My sibling and I jokingly call ourselves 'mutts'. We can trace our European ancestry back to when we arrived to the U.S. in the early 1600's, but because of our ancestors circumstances we can't find anything further. The family have been eternal wanderers and freewheeling with their partner selection since then. The result is that we have X times great-grandparents who were slaves and who owned them. We have Native American ancestors who were forced along the Trail of Tears. We have come from Chinese immigrants who worked on early railroads in the West under horrible conditions. We were on both sides of most wars. We were victims and perpetrators. And as a result of all this our family moves, crisscrossing the country with every subsequent generation. I am white as newly fallen snow yet tied by blood to the suffering of more minority populations than many could imagine, but somehow I have no right to lament their treatment or appreciate the enormity of their sacrifices. I really don't know what to make of all of it. We usually just assimilate to wherever we are, but at the end of the day I have nothing that is truly mine to identify with. My brother says we are the ultimate Americans, since we have nothing else to identify ourselves as. It is a weird issue of identity to have, and seems fabricated at best because it seems like such a blase concern. But its unique absence in our lives is something that often leaves me (and my brother) at a loss.
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Those differences have effected the way I look and my mobility. My face and body look odd compared with those of most people, and I do attract negative attention and staring when I go out. I have had to tailor my life around this by using technology wherever I can, by avoiding going out very often, and avoiding going out alone.
My appearance is the most obvious effect, but I also have pancreatic deficiency, meaning that my body doesn't produce certain digestive enzymes that break down fats and proteins for the body to use, causing me to have trouble maintaining a healthy weight and decent muscle tissue. I take synthetic enzymes, but they are not quite as good as the real thing. I'm rather tall, so that just makes me look even more spindly. I also have a seizure disorder, but it is fairly well controlled.
I've been using a wheelchair for the past ~15 years, but before that I could walk with canes. I have a rather severe spinal curvature that is causing me a lot of pain and making it hard to take a deep breath. So I'm an odd-looking fellow... and yes, that attracts the attention of almost everyone. I'm conspicuous.
The one thing I find the most annoying is how every fool out there has a camera phone... my life was much easier before camera phones.
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I've always been a very creative and had an imagination without boundaries, really. But growing up I felt like others around me judged me for being childish, fighting imaginary giant windmills and it really hit me hard as a kid, because no one was interested in my crazy adventure stories and stupid jokes. I was pretty much that weird kid, or the class clown. I remember when in my new class I was sitting alone and in front sat two girls I recently became friends with. So we were talking and I just randomly poked one girl and said "hey, that kitty in the calendar is so cute, don't you think?". She asked what is wrong with me!
Since then I became shy and extremely quiet. Even 10 years later now, even sitting with my best friends, I talk only if I'm asked or to carry on conversation to not feel uncomfortable. I am scared to call my mom to ask if she'll pick me up. I don't feel like I am sincere to others, but on the other hand I am scared to be laughed at and left alone again.
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What makes me different? I am aware more than most, I can read between the lines more than most, and I am quite apt at researching. I know this doesn't sound like anything special, however consider those facts and the fact I'm a short woman with a slightly higher voice. This means that people don't typically expect me to stand my ground. When I do, it catches them off-guard and suddenly I'm considered intimidating, threatening, rude, or cold. Nobody seems to know how to communicate with a gal who knows her stuff! When it comes to my work, personality, or knowledge- I own it! People don't always like that too much. Haha
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It is possible to have a separating operation but in my mild case it has never been that important to me.
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Sometimes too, I wish I can be strong hearted like some people. I’m too softhearted for my liking which make me stay mostly on my own so that i don’t get hurt.