Parenting for our perfect child!!

realistic · Post by **realistic** » 03 Feb 2010, 05:21

Hi,

As all persons have their own thinking styles and point of views for various situations in life.

Here want to I want to know and ask is question for Parents actually, but well...This is also open for everyone that,

How do we discipline our misbehaving child?
What are the ways we can teach our child about what's right or wrong, good or bad?

Please share your inputs here with us.

Thank You Very Much!!

andr70 · Post by **andr70** » 11 Feb 2010, 06:10

Our misbehaving child is our mistake and not his or her fault, if we remember that, it would be easier to correct is

Fran · Post by **Fran** » 11 Feb 2010, 14:11

One man's misbehaving can be another man's yearning for freedom!
Give the poor kid a break

JoshBransonTeacher · Post by **JoshBransonTeacher** » 16 Feb 2010, 23:08

It depends on your definition of "misbehaving" and "discipline." If you mean that your child gets fussy when he's tired or hungry or cranky, then that's normal and doesn't warrant discipline.

Let the child be a child!

asmaahsan · Post by **asmaahsan** » 18 Jan 2013, 14:52

We make a lot of mistakes with the first child. We learn from them and do a better job with the younger kids, but then the younger kids go out and still make mistakes and learn the hard way.

A child misbehaves when it feels it's not understood or is not getting what it wants. We need to establish a connection with the child where we set limits and get the child used to staying within those limits.

A lot of influences come from outside, be it a two year old getting his hair pulled in the playground by a random kid, learning it as a new kind of behavior, and coming home to do the same to the older sibling.

There is no such thing as good or bad parenting. Your kid is a part of you, so eventually, once you give the child your undivided attention, start to slowly convince them with patience and love to listen to you and obey you, you will start getting results because your child is bonded to you in emotional ties that nothing can break completely. A hug here, a treat there, and usually, consistently checking the child with love and patience will convince them that what you want for them is the right thing, provided you are being a reasonable parent yourself.

Books on parenting written by top psychologists are available if you like self help books. I have never read one but I have always listened to advice others give me about being a better parent and I try to follow whatever seems to be suitable for my child.

Bighuey · Post by **Bighuey** » 18 Jan 2013, 21:23

No one is born an expert parent. A lot of it depends on the child, after raising two sets of kids I still dont know everything about it. I do know one thing, if the kid misbehaves dont blow up. Walk away and cool off and you will have a better understanding of how to deal with the situation. It takes a lot of patience to deal with kids, Ive found thats the main thing.

asmaahsan · Post by **asmaahsan** » 18 Jan 2013, 23:38

Bighuey wrote:No one is born an expert parent. A lot of it depends on the child, after raising two sets of kids I still dont know everything about it. I do know one thing, if the kid misbehaves dont blow up. Walk away and cool off and you will have a better understanding of how to deal with the situation. It takes a lot of patience to deal with kids, Ive found thats the main thing.

I mishandled my first kid like that. She was so gentle and loving. I made her aggressive by scolding her too much. I was brought up being scolded on the spot so I thought it was normal to blow up at the time, but my kid got so aggressive I had to change my tactics. She is better but damage still there. Will take time to get her back on track.

I am an average mother. Can't compete for awards for best mother but I am a mother who has learned from her mistakes. Still trying to establish better connections with the kids.

Bighuey · Post by **Bighuey** » 19 Jan 2013, 11:12

asmaahsan wrote:
Bighuey wrote:No one is born an expert parent. A lot of it depends on the child, after raising two sets of kids I still dont know everything about it. I do know one thing, if the kid misbehaves dont blow up. Walk away and cool off and you will have a better understanding of how to deal with the situation. It takes a lot of patience to deal with kids, Ive found thats the main thing.
I mishandled my first kid like that. She was so gentle and loving. I made her aggressive by scolding her too much. I was brought up being scolded on the spot so I thought it was normal to blow up at the time, but my kid got so aggressive I had to change my tactics. She is better but damage still there. Will take time to get her back on track.

I am an average mother. Can't compete for awards for best mother but I am a mother who has learned from her mistakes. Still trying to establish better connections with the kids.

It sounds like you are doing a good job. Like you say, you learn from your mistakes. My kids all turned out good, my daughter had a minor problem with drugs, but got over it and raised three excellent kids who are on their own now and have turned out pretty good. Im especially proud of my two boys, my oldest started out cleaning toilets for Kenworth trucks and eventually worked his way up to shop manager. The youngest son has a very good position with a chemical co. Living here in Mexico, I dont see them as often as I would like to, but hope to visit them this fall.