Review by NuelUkah -- Dibs and Dabs of my Life

[NuelUkah]

[Following is a volunteer review of "Dibs and Dabs of my Life" by Gertrude Coulter.]

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4 out of 4 stars

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Gertrude Ellen Shapard and her twin brother, James Edward Shapard were born on March 15, 1927, at Baptist Memorial Hospital, Memphis, Tennessee. Gertrude and Jim loved their grandparents so much, likewise their parents. At the age of six, Gertrude begged her mum to teach her crocheting. Mama was adamant, but later taught her daughter. And at the age of eight, Gertrude became a good crocheter. I found it weird that her grandmother, Mamie Plumlee, had to quit teaching to get married because as at that time, schoolteachers were not allowed to be married.

Gertrude later got married to her boyfriend, Thurman Coulter, and had four kids: Jimmy, Wayne, Carolyn, and David. Quite a pity her marriage didn't last long. She said,

Eventually, Thurman began to seek female friends outside of our marriage. He also became irritable with me and the children. I will not go into details, but this led to very touchy and physical situations. I came from a loving home, where parents did not mistreat their children or spouses, and I could not and would not get used to this behavior, nor would I subject my children to it.

In January 1958, she divorced Thurman.

In Dibs and Dabs of my Life, Gertrude Coulter highlights the simple way of life in the good old days when anyone could walk around the block after dark without feeling afraid; most children lived in two-parent homes; children walked to neighborhood schools; life was family-oriented; and mothers were stay-at-home moms.

Jessie May Bridgeforth was their maid for several years—from the time Gertrude was about three years old until she was about ten or eleven years old. They loved Jessie because she was sincere and loving. I laughed when Gertrude tried making pancakes for Jessie to travel with to Detroit, but the pancakes didn't come out good. Good thing she reread the recipe and found out what she missed. Gertrude and James mimicking Mae and Mr. Henley were funny scenes as I imagined them.

Things were much cheaper then. As the author said,

Bread cost five cents a loaf, eggs were twelve cents a dozen, and we could buy a week’s supply of groceries for five dollars. That would feed our family of five as well as the beggars who came to our door.

It was quite a pity how Grandma Gertrude lost her immediate family members mysteriously. Her dad died of heart attack. Her twin, Jim, died of heart attack. Her mum suffered broken hips, ruptured appendix, broken arm, and eventually died. Her son, Wayne, died of cancer. I felt hurt as she kept losing her close ones, even her best friend.

The book was quite engaging. Her writing style was very descriptive and expository. And the pace was well developed. However, the book was not proofread carefully. I noticed several errors such as missing punctuations, wrong spellings, and wrong words. These do not diminish the impact of the book on the reader. I must commend the author for her detailed memoir of her eighty years of life on earth. Hence, I rate Dibs and Dabs of my Life by Gertrude Coulter 4 out of 4 stars. I recommend this book to lovers of memoirs.

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[nooregano]

Sounds like a sweet, simple and heartwarming book. The author sounds like an opinionated, grounded woman and nostalgic by nature. This was a great review, thank you!

[Susmita Biswas]

The rating shows how good the book is. Thanks for a great review.

[María Andrea Fernández Sepúlveda]

Gertrude later got married to her boyfriend, Thurman Coulter, and had four kids: Jimmy, Wayne, Carolyn, and David. Quite a pity her marriage didn't last long. She said,

Eventually, Thurman began to seek female friends outside of our marriage. He also became irritable with me and the children. I will not go into details, but this led to very touchy and physical situations. I came from a loving home, where parents did not mistreat their children or spouses, and I could not and would not get used to this behavior, nor would I subject my children to it.

In January 1958, she divorced Thurman.

Filing for a divorce in the 1950s was not an easy feat or such a common thing to do as nowadays, so I think Gertrude must be a strong and interesting woman. I'll be glad to read about her life and much simpler times. It seems like an uplifting book, thanks!

[Beatus]

This is one of the books that has a very simple objective yet interestingly delivered. Nice review.

[Connie Otwani]

I love Getrude already, from your review! To decide to divorce when the norm was for children to be in 2-parent homes must have kinda stigmatized her. She was a strong woman, though I feel her grief, losing close family members. Thanks for the great review!

[Espie]

In Dibs and Dabs of my Life, Gertrude Coulter highlights the simple way of life in the good old days when anyone could walk around the block after dark without feeling afraid; most children lived in two-parent homes; children walked to neighborhood schools; life was family-oriented; and mothers were stay-at-home moms.

Now, I am really feeling my age. I've seen that same kind of life she had. Thus, I couldn't help but wish that our future generations, not just those in first world countries, could have the best possibilities as well. Thank you for your insightful review.