View on relationships

[gali]

I think their situations are too different to compare because abuse is not the same as neglect. That said I'd probably say Yaser's side. My parents split up when I was about 10 or 11, and there are just no words to explain the pain that comes from a broken home.

I didn't compare and you are right. I'm sorry you went through that as well. I hope you overcome it by now.

[Rebeccaej]

"For the kids" is a lie. Kids don't benefit from being taught to stay in an abusive relationship.

Depending on the cause of the abuse, the relationship may even improve after the divorce, and the couple might be better able to provide a healthy, stable environment.

[gali]

"For the kids" is a lie. Kids don't benefit from being taught to stay in an abusive relationship.

Depending on the cause of the abuse, the relationship may even improve after the divorce, and the couple might be better able to provide a healthy, stable environment.

I totally agree!

[Gravy]

[WestIndie001]

I think it'd be difficult to raise kids in an unhealthy, damaged marriage. I also support Nadia's view. I believe seeing the horrible tension between your parents could affect your childhood.

[Gravy]

I think it'd be difficult to raise kids in an unhealthy, damaged marriage. I also support Nadia's view. I believe seeing the horrible tension between your parents could affect your childhood.

Not to mention the children's future relationships.

[Donnavila Marie01]

I seide with Nadia. I believe that a relationship which has a million reasons to be broken must be broken. It does not save the children in any way because parents quarreling in the presence of the child is child abuse.

[masterhawk88]

I seide with Nadia. I believe that a relationship which has a million reasons to be broken must be broken. It does not save the children in any way because parents quarreling in the presence of the child is child abuse.

I mean no offense, but i think you're mistaken. Quarreling in front of a child is in no way child abuse in most cases. Unless the child is being subjected to seeing one parent beat the other. In a normal healthy relationship couples argue. They will never agree on everything. They also eventually come to some compromise, or forgive one another. Seeing this is actually beneficial as it shows a child that disagreements don't necessarily lead to grudges and bad feelings.

I haven't read the book, and I don't plan to as I loathe Adele's music, so I'm not sure what Nadia's child actually saw. However, such a general sweeping statement is simply not accurate. For context, I was an abused child, and calling something so trivial as quarreling in front of a child abuse woefully waters down what actual abuse is.

[Tracy Ikem]

I stand with Nadia, I will never stay in an abusive relationship for anything and if I have kids I will explain to them and take them with me they can go visit their dad from time to time

[TheSeelieCourtJester]

I would have to say I support Nadie's view of the relationship. Whether your married or not, you can't stay in an abusive relationship. It doesn't matter whether your loved ones approve of your choices, it's still your future your abuser is messing with. I've seen a few abusive relationships, and when someone decides not to walk away, their choice would more than likely end badly. Don't try to change the person; just get out.

[Amagine]

I would be more like Nadia. I wouldn't stay in an unhappy relationship even if we did have children. The reason is because I wouldn't want my children to see then perfect example of a miserable marriage. I don't want them to see either of their parents unhappy.

[Adebisi Taiwo]

I will follow Nadia's Decision anytime, anyday.

[gali]

I agree, I also won't stay in an abusive relationship (either verbal or physical abuse) for any reason.

[israel webber]

Well I think once you two have attained the point of getting kids in the relationship,assuming it was not an accident ,the wisest move is to just hold on for their sake but if matters get out of hand just move out with the kids if possible.

[Ssinghal]

It is quite hard to say who is right and who is wrong since both have their own perspectives of looking at things, and are quite right in their own way. Nadia, on realising that there was no more love left between her and her husband, decided to divorce him. Yasser, on the other hand, stayed in an unfulfilling marriage for the sake of his kids. I personally believe that Yasser did the better thing because a divorce would mean that the kids would not get the love of both the parents at the same time and sometimes the emotional pressure and stress on kids can weaken their mental condition and cause adverse effects, like what happened in the case of Nadia's son in his father's wedding. Though I believe Yasser's action of staying in the marriage was commendable, I congratulate Nadia on her independent spirit and her determination to do what she thought was right, instead of what the society told her to do.