Could you date someone who doesn't read?

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Re: Could you date someone who doesn't read?

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jeabjeab77 wrote:Mmm .. I think I can, as long as we still can share our discussion about some other things.
Anyway, it would like a dream come true if I could have the guy who loves to read :D
Tried so many book stores but never get one :mrgreen:
Trust me, he's there somewhere, you know what they say, good things come to those who wait. :D
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Post by Gurkavitch »

I definitely could, as long as they can keep up a conversation and, of course, handle my constant jokes and messing around, then that's all I'd need. 8)
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Post by jeabjeab77 »

Ant wrote:
jeabjeab77 wrote:Mmm .. I think I can, as long as we still can share our discussion about some other things.
Anyway, it would like a dream come true if I could have the guy who loves to read :D
Tried so many book stores but never get one :mrgreen:
Trust me, he's there somewhere, you know what they say, good things come to those who wait. :D
Thank you for your encouragement Ant. I will then keep reading and waiting until .. noooo 80 is too long 8)
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Post by Lego »

Yes, I could. There's more to life for me than reading, I'm able to talk about other things. I read as a hobby and I use it to escape for a while. To have a partner who did the same thing would be lovely but not essential. I would read to have time to myself and then I would do other things with my partner.

I actually can't believe so many people have said no.
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Post by tarablanca »

I agree with Lego. I wouldn't discriminate someone based on whether they read or not. The most important thing on the list for me is being good at heart. I'd rather date a humble, kind non-reader that an obnoxious reader.
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Post by RosarioPozzi »

I think you fall for who you fall for and judging them by whether they read or not is silly. We all have our own interests. My boyfriend plays his PS3 while I read a good book. We are very happy. It is good to have your own thing to talk about with your partner.
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Post by Tulsi_sv »

I am dating one... yea he listens when i talk bout the books i read.. i think that does it and i have lots of friends to discuss books with :)
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Most definitely.
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Post by Chris Blue »

I'd rather not date someone who doesn't read.

(Aside from the small matter of being married) Books are a significant part of who I am so someone who doesn't 'get' that would have to be pretty darned special to get my devotion. They wouldn't have to be quite as book-clingy as me, but an appreciation of the written / typed word would be essential.
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Post by BiauncaWilliams »

What a great question! I guess it comes down to whether or not we have other similar interests. If a man reads, great. Just one more thing to have in common and discuss.
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Post by Pat Hampson »

I'm with Scott. I could not date someone who did not read for the pure pleasure of the experience. I appreciate the complexity of plots, the nuances of character and the use of language. I would not know how to relate to someone who would not be curious when I laughed out loud while reading.
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Post by jan52 »

I think I could date someone who doesn't read as long as we had other things in common. Maybe there would be a man who likes nature like I do. Reading is my main love though.
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Only if they were really, really good looking. :lol:
How perfectly goddamned delightful it all is, to be sure.
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Post by annierenfei »

The straightforward answer is no, because we'd be poorly matched intellectually. Then there's the more complicated question of whether we enjoyed the same genres. I saw a guy for a while who didn't read fiction at all; I don't read nonfiction - it's not that I don' want to, I must have an attention deficiency or something, because I can't. It wasn't good. My fiction readings are such a big part of my life that it's like you can't know me fully unless you're a fiction reader yourself, and as it has already been mentioned on this forum, it cuts off a large number of conversation possibilities.

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Post by ericafaye »

I actually did date someone who had NEVER read a book, and now he reads all the time. Granted, he reads a completely different genre than I do so we still don't really discuss books, but it's nice that he does read now. I have a hard time with people telling me I need a hobby... Isn't that what reading is???
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