Surrogate Family?
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Re: Surrogate Family?
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I agree that what is gained from a relationship is difficult to quantify. In this case, each of our characters got what they needed from the relationships. Unfortunately, this doesn't always occur. Many relationships are very lopsided. One person gets far more out of it than the other or others. Just think about abusive relationships and you'll see what I mean. Thanks to you both for dropping in and sharing your thoughts!Samantha Gayle wrote: ↑10 Oct 2020, 18:38 I think the relationships created were powerful and each held a unique quality that benefited each character. I agree with others that it can be difficult to measure, but I believe they can be seen positively. It was also a reciprocal benefit which is so meaningful.
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JGretz-7 wrote: ↑12 Oct 2020, 20:12 Friends are the family that you can choose for yourself. While Kalayla might not have initially thought she had a choice, she ultimately found the Old Lady to bring her a sense of comfort, peace, and guidance. Lena learned to forgive herself and allowed herself to live her life again. Maureen found someone she could trust to confide in and support her. It's a win all the way around.
I've always liked that quote, and it is so true. Sometimes we just don't get along with our biological families or even no longer have them. Lena, Maureen, and Kaylala were able to find a new family in each other and support in a way they each needed. Fortunately, their relationship was at least fairly balanced (I personally think Maureen got a bit more out of it than the other two) and everyone was content within it.Awesomeliker wrote: ↑13 Oct 2020, 01:32 We can't really measure the bonds formed in a family in my opinion, but i do love the bond created between the three of them.
I agree that as outsiders we are able to more objectively see how level/mutual (or not) the relationship between the three characters was. Within the relationship interpretations would perforce be entirely subjective. They were successful in helping and supporting each other, and that was a win for all of them.Beatus wrote: ↑13 Oct 2020, 06:20 I believe anyone can interpret the relationship depending on how the story relates to them. Each character got what was needed in my opinion. Only an outsider can notice the "less or more". As far as they enjoyed themselves around each other and helped one another through a difficult time in their respective lives, I think that should be enough.
Thanks to all of you for dropping by and sharing your thoughts with us!
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Kalayla got the support of another adult besides her mother, which is important for any child.
Maureen received help with Kalayla as well as sound advice from another mother.
Lena learned a lot about family and forgiveness. She also was kept on her toes by Miss Kalayla.
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The relationship getting stronger was independent of the type of family.
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Since they seem not to have an immediate family, the surrogate relationship they created is important for all of them. For each character, having that missing family tie filled up by the other keeps each of them from something worse. In many ways, they are each other's emotional support, even though it might not always seem like it.Kelyn wrote: ↑01 Sep 2020, 20:48 What do you think about the psychological/sociological bonds that form between the three main characters? To me, despite the character's differing backgrounds, the relationships gradually formed into a type "surrogate" immediate family:
Lena - (surrogate) mother/ grand-mother
Maureen - Lena's (surrogate) daughter/ Kalayla's mother
Kalayla - Maureen's daughter/ Lena's (surrogate) grand-daughter
In your opinion, how did this satisfy the needs of each character? Did one character get more out of the relationship than the others?
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I mean, I think that the three of them formed their own 'family'. I also think that they each learned something from their relationships and it was something that they needed to learn and go through at that time in their lives. Everything happens for a reason.Kelyn wrote: ↑01 Sep 2020, 20:48 What do you think about the psychological/sociological bonds that form between the three main characters? To me, despite the character's differing backgrounds, the relationships gradually formed into a type "surrogate" immediate family:
Lena - (surrogate) mother/ grand-mother
Maureen - Lena's (surrogate) daughter/ Kalayla's mother
Kalayla - Maureen's daughter/ Lena's (surrogate) grand-daughter
In your opinion, how did this satisfy the needs of each character? Did one character get more out of the relationship than the others?
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