Review of What’s Forever For? A Physician’s Guide To Everlasting Love And Success In Marriage
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Review of What’s Forever For? A Physician’s Guide To Everlasting Love And Success In Marriage
[Following is a volunteer review of "What's Forever For? A Physician's Guide To Everlasting Love And Success In Marriage" by George P “Jeep” Naum, III.]
Dr. George “Jeep” Naum III is a physician who also has many years of marriage counseling experience. He has always believed in marriage and is married to his soul mate. Dr. Naum has seen many couples struggle with marital strife, and has acquired particular insights into the unique challenges and problems inherent in doctors' marriages. He wrote the self-help book, What's Forever For? to help married couples through their difficult times, with the end goal of (hopefully) saving marriages.
Dr. Naum explains why it is important to get to know a person before marriage and to be specific about what each person wants and expects regarding housework, work outside the home, time away from each other, finances, and sex. He emphasizes that no one should plan to change a person after they marry and instead, accept them as they are. Remaining “entrenched” (never revealing one's true self) vs. allowing each spouse to be vulnerable in marriage is discussed through the book, and the necessity of vulnerability for the health of the marriage is emphasized and fully explained.
There are many positive aspects, including: The chapters offer specific suggestions, advice and techniques for all married couples towards solving conflict lovingly and for having a happy marriage through problem solving together instead of each person being headstrong and selfish with their particular views and desires. The author even provides questions for the reader to answer at the end of each chapter. This reinforces what was learned in each one.
Detailed stories are provided about three different couples, (including one physician's family), having problems in their marriages and how they handled them, were very thorough and detailed. Readers who are experiencing the same types of problems will find these examples extremely helpful. Dr. Naum does an excellent job of character development of the married couples and their families, building suspense into the stories so that the reader wants to continue reading to find out what happens next.
The only slightly negative aspect I find is that the writing is so realistic that the examples of intense marital conflict and situations acted out in detail by the book's characters can trigger feelings of anxiety while reading through it. I experienced this, and found it helpful to take breaks from the reading, which was a good strategy. However, readers who face similar circumstances in their marriages will easily relate to the characters and the anxiety as well.
I rate this book 4 out of 4 stars. The book was well edited with just a few spelling errors and was very enlightening to read. I really enjoyed it and learned a lot about how to successfully resolve conflict in marriage! It kept my interest from beginning to end.
I recommend this book for those who are interested in strengthening their marriages and getting help for specific problems they are having. Doctors in particular will find the book especially helpful in resolving marital conflict due to their unique lifestyles, as well as couples who work in other high stress occupations with high divorce rates. In fact, an entire chapter is devoted specifically to difficulties that physicians face in their marriages with techniques on how to overcome these problems.
There is a religious theme which flows throughout the entire book, as Dr. Naum mentions God often and stresses the need for religion in marriage. He is very open about his Catholic faith and includes quotes from scripture. That is not to say that a reader must be Catholic or religious in order to appreciate, learn and be helped by the book.
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What's Forever For? A Physician's Guide To Everlasting Love And Success In Marriage
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Dr. George “Jeep” Naum III is a physician who also has many years of marriage counseling experience. He has always believed in marriage and is married to his soul mate. Dr. Naum has seen many couples struggle with marital strife, and has acquired particular insights into the unique challenges and problems inherent in doctors' marriages. He wrote the self-help book, What's Forever For? to help married couples through their difficult times, with the end goal of (hopefully) saving marriages.
Dr. Naum explains why it is important to get to know a person before marriage and to be specific about what each person wants and expects regarding housework, work outside the home, time away from each other, finances, and sex. He emphasizes that no one should plan to change a person after they marry and instead, accept them as they are. Remaining “entrenched” (never revealing one's true self) vs. allowing each spouse to be vulnerable in marriage is discussed through the book, and the necessity of vulnerability for the health of the marriage is emphasized and fully explained.
There are many positive aspects, including: The chapters offer specific suggestions, advice and techniques for all married couples towards solving conflict lovingly and for having a happy marriage through problem solving together instead of each person being headstrong and selfish with their particular views and desires. The author even provides questions for the reader to answer at the end of each chapter. This reinforces what was learned in each one.
Detailed stories are provided about three different couples, (including one physician's family), having problems in their marriages and how they handled them, were very thorough and detailed. Readers who are experiencing the same types of problems will find these examples extremely helpful. Dr. Naum does an excellent job of character development of the married couples and their families, building suspense into the stories so that the reader wants to continue reading to find out what happens next.
The only slightly negative aspect I find is that the writing is so realistic that the examples of intense marital conflict and situations acted out in detail by the book's characters can trigger feelings of anxiety while reading through it. I experienced this, and found it helpful to take breaks from the reading, which was a good strategy. However, readers who face similar circumstances in their marriages will easily relate to the characters and the anxiety as well.
I rate this book 4 out of 4 stars. The book was well edited with just a few spelling errors and was very enlightening to read. I really enjoyed it and learned a lot about how to successfully resolve conflict in marriage! It kept my interest from beginning to end.
I recommend this book for those who are interested in strengthening their marriages and getting help for specific problems they are having. Doctors in particular will find the book especially helpful in resolving marital conflict due to their unique lifestyles, as well as couples who work in other high stress occupations with high divorce rates. In fact, an entire chapter is devoted specifically to difficulties that physicians face in their marriages with techniques on how to overcome these problems.
There is a religious theme which flows throughout the entire book, as Dr. Naum mentions God often and stresses the need for religion in marriage. He is very open about his Catholic faith and includes quotes from scripture. That is not to say that a reader must be Catholic or religious in order to appreciate, learn and be helped by the book.
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What's Forever For? A Physician's Guide To Everlasting Love And Success In Marriage
View: on Bookshelves | on Amazon
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