Should Parents answer their children's question about sexual topics honestly?
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Re: Should Parents answer their children's question about sexual topics honestly?
That's a very good thought! Thanks for commenting!Divine_Michael wrote: ↑03 Jan 2023, 18:17 I believe parents should be honest when talk to their kids about sexual topic because sometimes that knowledge could be the best weapon you could give them against molesters.
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Great comment! I agree wholeheartedly! Thanks for commenting!Patty Allread wrote: ↑03 Jan 2023, 18:53 I agree that parents should be honest in answering their children's questions about anything, including sex. One of the things I like about this book is the first chapter which clearly describes the physiology of male and female reproduction and the process of creating a pregnancy. As adults and parents, we know how it goes, but how many of us can honestly say we have a sound knowledge of all these details? Understanding the technology of sex makes it much easier for us to be honest with our children and provide reasonable answers that won't confuse them.
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You make some very good comments! Thanks!Alex Reeves wrote: ↑04 Jan 2023, 02:10 Parents should be indeed honest, but in no way be explicit in their explanations. A child may be curious as to how the human reproductive system works, and parents may give their children a summary of the function of the system. However, the major problem arrives when your teen daughter asks you if she's old enough to have sex. How can one, that is a father, have the courage to sit down his daughter and give her a lesson on the dangers of adolescent sex without saddening her?
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I agree! And, yes, it does have to be based on the child's age. Some children ask questions sooner than others so it depends on their level of maturity too! Thanks for commenting!Monale Bariyima Ueh wrote: ↑04 Jan 2023, 02:19 Yes parents should answer their children's question about sexual topics honestly. They don't have to give a lot of details in some answers. The level of details should be based on the child's age and development. But lying about the answers or ignoring the questions can fan the flame of curiosity and make the child seek those answers in places we don't approve.
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Absolutely! Thanks for commenting!ilze herholdt wrote: ↑04 Jan 2023, 05:43 I would say it depends on the age of the kid. You don't want to talk about sex with your kids too early on since it might ruin their childhood. I would say be honest but not in an explicit way. There is no reason to ever lie to your kid.
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I agree! And your last comment about their confidence decreasing after you have lied to them is absolutely right! Thanks for commenting!Chika Oroke wrote: ↑04 Jan 2023, 13:11 I think you did what you ought to do as a parent. Lying to them or refusing to engage them with such questions will lead to seeking the anders somewhere else, and what they learn outside may be destructively dangerous. Again, their confidence in discussing other issues will decrease.
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I agree with you that the age and comprehension abilities of our children should determine what kinds of truths they need to be told. I believe in "evolving lies", where for example on the issue of conception, the story sold out to a child keeps changing towards the truth, as they grow with age and maturity, so that they fully grasp what actually happens by the time they're of age and can understand conception.Brenda Creech wrote: ↑02 Jan 2023, 08:57 I agree with the author that parents should always answer their children's questions about the body and sexual topics honestly. A funny story aside from this: When my son was around six years old, he asked me how babies got inside their mommy's stomach. Being a 'modern' mother, I explained to my son. Later that day, when we stopped by MY mom's house, he ran in and said, "Grandma, do you know where babies come from?" My mom was shy and would have never talked about such things to her grandchildren, so she was shocked that I had! Despite that, I believe we need to be as honest as possible based on their age and ability to understand. What do you think?
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Yes, I agree! We just need to adjust the answers to their age to not be confusing or overwhelming.I believe we need to be as honest as possible
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Those are some very valid ideas! Everything doesn't have to be told at once when they ask their first question! Thanks for commenting!Hellen Muriithi wrote: ↑04 Jan 2023, 23:02I agree with you that the age and comprehension abilities of our children should determine what kinds of truths they need to be told. I believe in "evolving lies", where for example on the issue of conception, the story sold out to a child keeps changing towards the truth, as they grow with age and maturity, so that they fully grasp what actually happens by the time they're of age and can understand conception.Brenda Creech wrote: ↑02 Jan 2023, 08:57 I agree with the author that parents should always answer their children's questions about the body and sexual topics honestly. A funny story aside from this: When my son was around six years old, he asked me how babies got inside their mommy's stomach. Being a 'modern' mother, I explained to my son. Later that day, when we stopped by MY mom's house, he ran in and said, "Grandma, do you know where babies come from?" My mom was shy and would have never talked about such things to her grandchildren, so she was shocked that I had! Despite that, I believe we need to be as honest as possible based on their age and ability to understand. What do you think?
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