If you feel depressed, what is your coping mechanism?

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Hmm. I would not wish anyone be depressed. I've been depressed and I know how hollow the feeling was. Sometimes, it might take a little help to revive a depressed person, sometimes, it might take nothing nothing, so it's unsure. Also, some people just need money. Lots of it.
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If I have data, I look for memes period. I can't be depressed. If is too much, I put a call to a close friend and talk until I release everything.
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When I feel depressed I just listen to music, watch comedy videos, read the Bible and talk with close friends and families.
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Just as there are countless causes for someone to feel down or depressed, there are numerous methods that can calm my nerves. It may be as simple as getting some rest or getting together with and talking to friends, watching funny kids' clips on YouTube is relaxing. Sometimes talking to family members and being honest about what's bothering me helps me to fix the problem and feel better. There are times when you may feel down without cause, and on those days, reading can be really beneficial.
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I normally just take time to settle down, take a shower, do a face mask, read, walk my dog, or even cry. Doing these things is pretty stress-relieving and I feel helps me.
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I'm with Addison's therapist. I love journaling. Writing down my thoughts on a page is the best therapy, followed by some kind of exercise.
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I usually keep myself busy enough to keep depression at bay. Being active, reading, listening to music, dancing, or taking a walk are very good coping mechanisms.
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Reading a book that offers me delight or curiosity helps take my mind off stress and provides a momentary break. I also practise mindfulness and meditation to assist in alleviating stress and anxiety. A sense of tranquilly may be obtained through focusing on the current moment and being mindful of one's thoughts and sensations.
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Bertha Jackson wrote: 03 Jul 2023, 12:20 I try to think of other people going through difficult times and compare them to my situation. After that, I do what I can to help them with their struggles, which takes my mind off my troubles. This always makes me feel better. Reading uplifting books helps as well.
Hi Bertha, I have also realised that whenever I move out of my own problems and empathise with those who are struggling, it gives me a new perspective on life. It reminds me that I am not alone in my challenges and that our human experiences are all intertwined. As I assist others in need, I am impacted by the power of compassion and the beneficial effect it has on both the receiver and myself.
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Hazel Mae Bagarinao wrote: 03 Jul 2023, 05:00 In the book, the characters possess emotional battles or silent battles, which mostly lead to depression. For you, what is your coping mechanism if you feel stressed or depressed? What activities or things do you do to lighten up the mood or feelings?
Depression may vary from person to person. Like when I feel depressed because of my studies mainly, I try to make distance from the source of my depression. I engage myself in other activities such as playing cricket, listening to music or even talking with my parents also do the job. I have 4 cats. Spending time with them often lightens my mood. Riding a bicycle alone with music on also is my favourite thing to do when I feel depressed.
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Being depressed is very hard on your mind and body. It causes actual stresses and negative reactions that can affect you in so many ways. When I find myself in these situations, I do many things. Sometimes I listen to soft worship music that soothes my mind and calms my run away thoughts. During this time, I often pray as well.
Other times I go work in my gardens and get out into the fresh air and gentle breezes…. This one does a lot for me most times.
Then other times, I try to rest, take a nap, read or find people to talk to. These mostly just take my mind off of the situations that I’m dealing with and allow me to refocus a bit.

Then sometimes nothing works. Nothing helps. I just have to journal and write about how I feel and list some things that could be causes.
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Whenever I feel discouraged, I think of how wonderful God has been to me and seen me through even more difficult situations. I realise that life is in phases and moments will pass. So the feelings of discouragement will pass too.
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Seetha E wrote: 02 Aug 2023, 06:03 Just as there are countless causes for someone to feel down or depressed, there are numerous methods that can calm my nerves. It may be as simple as getting some rest or getting together with and talking to friends, watching funny kids' clips on YouTube is relaxing. Sometimes talking to family members and being honest about what's bothering me helps me to fix the problem and feel better. There are times when you may feel down without cause, and on those days, reading can be really beneficial.
That is quite true. Sometimes family or even just connecting to people can make you feel much better after a good conversation or hangout. Reading is also a therapeutic method to relieve discouragement or depression.
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Diana Lowery wrote: 04 Jul 2023, 13:32 Ok, don't judge me until you have tried it, but here is my stress remedy. I go into the woods behind my house and scream as loud as I can until I am almost hoarse. I wouldn't advise this if you have any close neighbors.
As funny as this sounds it's actually not a bad idea. Unless your neighbours call emergency lines for help. Maybe those with neighbours nearby can resort to screaming into a pillow as a stress remedy.
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Success Azuka wrote: 02 Aug 2023, 01:27 If I have data, I look for memes period. I can't be depressed. If is too much, I put a call to a close friend and talk until I release everything.
The interesting thing about memes is that there's a meme for nearly everything. They are so relatable yet funny. Calling friends helps too as long as its someone that you can confide in.
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