Review of Are You Love Smart or Love Stupid

Post by **Stephen Christopher 1** » 24 Feb 2024, 05:14

[Following is a volunteer review of "Are You Love Smart or Love Stupid" by Dr. Rachel Sims.]

5 out of 5 stars

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I really wanted to read and review Are You Love Smart or Love Stupid?, as I’ve been married for almost a year, and a few tiny cracks are showing. Boy, I’m glad I did. At the end of the book, all my questions had been answered, and most importantly, all my concerns had been obliterated. I love how the author, Dr Rachel Sims, writes in an easy-to-understand yet no-holds-barred way. ‘People, it’s time to uncomplicate your love life,’ ‘Wake up and smell the coffee.’ This type of writing makes this book very engaging, well, for me anyway.

Throughout the book, Dr Sims covers many dating myths that some of us believe — 45 in all. She provides convincing explanations for why these myths need to be debunked.

There are lots of lessons in this book. The content about social media is very relevant to today's relationships. Life is rarely as ‘perfect’ as your friends or acquaintances make it appear on their feeds, so don’t judge your life by theirs. I know this for a fact, as my feed is filled with pics of my husband and I having a wonderful life. Everyone sees us as this perfect couple. Lol, but the fights, the disagreements, the money concerns, none of that is in my feed, and that’s a massive part of our relationship (and why I was so keen to read this book).

Are you looking for that perfect match like all Disney movies promise? Well, stop! They don’t exist. Forget perfect; look instead for someone who’s “good enough.” The bottom line is that you need to be realistic and not look for the fantasy. This is one of the many lessons you’ll learn from this book. Do you believe opposites attract? Hollywood wants us to think that. I won’t spoil it, but they may be right, then again, maybe not. Read the book to find out.

The book taught me that I’m in the individuation stage of my relationship; much of what she wrote about this period had me nodding emphatically. However, I didn’t agree with everything in the book. Myth # 19 about living together had me at the opposite end of the argument to her. It took until Myth # 39 before I got the answers I was looking for, so be patient with the book; eventually, you’ll read what you need to.

Chapter 9, Final Take-Aways, summarizes everything and is one you can go back to and reference whenever you need to. The checklists that begin on page 127 are worth going through. You and your relationship are in a good place if you can check most of the boxes.

The book is impeccably edited. I found two minor errors and applaud the author for ensuring the book is well crafted. Based on the usefulness of the topic, the ease of reading, and the excellent editing, I’m happy to rate this book 5 out of 5 stars. Are You Love Smart or Love Stupid? is for anyone in a relationship, even if it feels perfect. Couples experiencing any issues, even minor ones, will benefit the most. Who knows, it may even save your relationship.

I’ll finish the review with something from the book for you to ponder. You’ve all heard the term, ‘Happy wife, happy life!’ right? I’m sure many of you believe it and even practice it, but consider this: what if the ideal is, ‘Happy husband and happy wife, happy life?’

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Post by **Jennifer Coxon** » 03 Mar 2024, 14:40

Stephen Christopher 1 wrote: ↑24 Feb 2024, 05:14 I really wanted to read and review Are You Love Smart or Love Stupid?, as I’ve been married for almost a year, and a few tiny cracks are showing. Boy, I’m glad I did. At the end of the book, all my questions had been answered, and most importantly, all my concerns had been obliterated. I love how the author, Dr Rachel Sims, writes in an easy-to-understand yet no-holds-barred way. ‘People, it’s time to uncomplicate your love life,’ ‘Wake up and smell the coffee.’ This type of writing makes this book very engaging, well, for me anyway.

Throughout the book, Dr Sims covers many dating myths that some of us believe — 45 in all. She provides convincing explanations for why these myths need to be debunked.

There are lots of lessons in this book. The content about social media is very relevant to today's relationships. Life is rarely as ‘perfect’ as your friends or acquaintances make it appear on their feeds, so don’t judge your life by theirs. I know this for a fact, as my feed is filled with pics of my husband and I having a wonderful life. Everyone sees us as this perfect couple. Lol, but the fights, the disagreements, the money concerns, none of that is in my feed, and that’s a massive part of our relationship (and why I was so keen to read this book).

Great review. I’m glad you found what you needed from this book. You are right, there are so many images of perfect relationships in our faces nowadays that it’s hard to remember that they are just a facade we share with each other. This book may be just what everyone needs.

Post by **Stephen Christopher 1** » 03 Mar 2024, 22:43

Jennifer Coxon wrote: ↑03 Mar 2024, 14:40
Great review. I’m glad you found what you needed from this book. You are right, there are so many images of perfect relationships in our faces nowadays that it’s hard to remember that they are just a facade we share with each other. This book may be just what everyone needs.

Thanks Jennifer for stopping by. Yes I agree, everyone needs this book!

Post by **Anu Anand** » 04 Mar 2024, 00:52

Hi Stephen, your review of is spot on! I totally relate to your experience with the book. I loved diving into it too, and it's awesome to see someone else getting so much out of it. Dr. Rachel Sims' writing style is just so relatable. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this fantastic book! I thoroughly enjoyed reading your review! Keep up the great work!

Post by **Stephen Christopher 1** » 04 Mar 2024, 20:41

Anu Anand wrote: ↑04 Mar 2024, 00:52 Hi Stephen, your review of is spot on! I totally relate to your experience with the book. I loved diving into it too, and it's awesome to see someone else getting so much out of it. Dr. Rachel Sims' writing style is just so relatable. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this fantastic book! I thoroughly enjoyed reading your review! Keep up the great work!

Hi Anu, I'm so happy to hear you got a lot out of this book, too. And thanks for your very kind words.

RJ Reviews · Post by **RJ Reviews** » 05 Mar 2024, 08:35

I need to find this book ASAP!
As always, I enjoyed reading your review and learning about an interesting book. I absolutely adore the way you write your review - easy, eloquent, and humorous. I get to learn new things every time I read one of your reviews. Thank you and happy reading.

Post by **Omneya Shakeep** » 05 Mar 2024, 17:59

That's an interesting book. I agree with you; we only see the great picture, but not the small cracks within. I loved the light humor in your writing style. Thanks for the recommendation and this excellent review!

Post by **Stephen Christopher 1** » 05 Mar 2024, 21:08

RJ Reviews wrote: ↑05 Mar 2024, 08:35 I need to find this book ASAP!
As always, I enjoyed reading your review and learning about an interesting book. I absolutely adore the way you write your review - easy, eloquent, and humorous. I get to learn new things every time I read one of your reviews. Thank you and happy reading.

Wow RJ, thank you. Coming from you that's very high praise. I also learn a lot from every one of your reviews. I hope you get from this book what you're looking for.

Post by **Stephen Christopher 1** » 05 Mar 2024, 21:09

Omneya Shakeep wrote: ↑05 Mar 2024, 17:59 That's an interesting book. I agree with you; we only see the great picture, but not the small cracks within. I loved the light humor in your writing style. Thanks for the recommendation and this excellent review!

Thank you so much Omneya for taking the time to read my review and your kind words.

Post by **Sarah Zain** » 06 Mar 2024, 11:06

I love your taste in choosing books, Stephen

. As usual, your review is interesting and expresses the idea of the book well. I agree that we must be realistic enough to judge the relationship.I expect to disagree with the author on some points, but according to your review, I will like the book. wish you a happy life. Great review !

Post by **Stephen Christopher 1** » 08 Mar 2024, 20:38

Sarah Zain wrote: ↑06 Mar 2024, 11:06 I love your taste in choosing books, Stephen . As usual, your review is interesting and expresses the idea of the book well. I agree that we must be realistic enough to judge the relationship.I expect to disagree with the author on some points, but according to your review, I will like the book. wish you a happy life. Great review !

Thanks, Sarah. I, too, thought I'd disagree with the author a few more times than I did, but she satisfactorily debunked almost every relationship myth. I hope you enjoy the book.

Sweeter Parker · Post by **Sweeter Parker** » 09 Mar 2024, 23:15

I need to read this book. Your review offers an amazing perspective on the book. I definitely want some of that wisdom for myself. I might need it in the future. Lovely review!

Post by **Stephen Christopher 1** » 10 Mar 2024, 00:19

Sweeter Parker wrote: ↑09 Mar 2024, 23:15 I need to read this book. Your review offers an amazing perspective on the book. I definitely want some of that wisdom for myself. I might need it in the future. Lovely review!

Thank you so much for taking the time to read my review; I hope you find what you're looking for in this book.

Gerry Steen · Post by **Gerry Steen** » 11 Mar 2024, 14:29

You are right Stephen. Both husbands and wives should be happy for true happiness. I agree that appreciating someone who is good enough is more realistic than finding that perfect person. My wife and I have been married to each other for 40 years. Nothing has been perfect but it has always been good enough. Good enough is perfect for me! That being said, the book you reviewed is the reason for this small essay. Your review has piqued my interest. I am adding it to my bookshelves. Thank you.

Post by **Stephen Christopher 1** » 11 Mar 2024, 21:38

Gerry Steen wrote: ↑11 Mar 2024, 14:29 You are right Stephen. Both husbands and wives should be happy for true happiness. I agree that appreciating someone who is good enough is more realistic than finding that perfect person. My wife and I have been married to each other for 40 years. Nothing has been perfect but it has always been good enough. Good enough is perfect for me! That being said, the book you reviewed is the reason for this small essay. Your review has piqued my interest. I am adding it to my bookshelves. Thank you.

See Gerry, you get it! Perfection doesn't exist, but good enough does. I feel fortunate that my partner is above good enough, so I scored well. Every marriage has road bumps, and we often revert back to the many myths out there and it turns out they're mostly false. I hope you enjoy this book as much as I did.