Review of Are You Love Smart or Love Stupid

Post by **Mari Thompson** » 13 Mar 2024, 15:48

I like that quote at the end of your review ‘Happy husband and happy wife, happy life?’ That makes a lot more sense than just one person in the relationship being happy. Great review!

Post by **Stephen Christopher 1** » 13 Mar 2024, 20:49

Hi Mari, thanks for stopping by. Yes I agree, shouldn't everyone in the relationship be equally happy?

Rob Carr · Post by **Rob Carr** » 16 Mar 2024, 04:13

Sounds like a great book. I love how you wove your personal story into your review too.

Post by **Stephen Christopher 1** » 16 Mar 2024, 22:15

Rob Carr wrote: ↑16 Mar 2024, 04:13 Sounds like a great book. I love how you wove your personal story into your review, too.

Thanks, Rob, the book came along at the right time for me. I needed some answers, and I got them! I appreciate you stopping by.

Post by **Risper Ouma Anyango** » 17 Mar 2024, 08:17

I too have been married for a year and you have got me really wondering what this book is really about. I really want to read it so that I cab discover this secrets about dating

Post by **Stephen Christopher 1** » 17 Mar 2024, 21:10

Risper Ouma Lisa Anyango wrote: ↑17 Mar 2024, 08:17 I too have been married for a year and you have got me really wondering what this book is really about. I really want to read it so that I cab discover this secrets about dating

Wow, congratulations on your marriage! You'll love this book. When you look back on your dating life, you'll say, 'Oh, I wish I'd had this book then.'

Post by **Tomy Chandrafrost** » 28 Apr 2024, 21:59

A book that debunks some dating tips? I think this would be an interesting book. Lately, I've been reading a lot of psychology books related to relationships. I like the last part of your review that added, 'a happy wife requires a happy husband,' which means marital happiness should be pursued by both people. Thank you for your review.

Post by **Stephen Christopher 1** » 29 Apr 2024, 03:20

Tomy Chandrafrost wrote: ↑28 Apr 2024, 21:59 A book that debunks some dating tips? I think this would be an interesting book. Lately, I've been reading a lot of psychology books related to relationships. I like the last part of your review that added, 'a happy wife requires a happy husband,' which means marital happiness should be pursued by both people. Thank you for your review.

Hi Tomy, I got so much out of this book. Yes that statement resonated with me, as I believe we should both be equally happy, and we are

Post by **MAHAD BAIG MIRZA** » 30 May 2024, 00:49

This review takes you on a journey of self-discovery and relationship enlightenment through Dr. Rachel Sims' "Are You Love Smart or Love Stupid?" offering practical insights, debunking myths, and providing valuable lessons for couples navigating the complexities of modern relationships.

Harshitha G B · Post by **Harshitha G B** » 30 May 2024, 03:59

Excellent one! I totally enjoyed this book especially when she breaking generational curse, I mean myths around the relationship.

Post by **Stephen Christopher 1** » 31 May 2024, 05:52

Harshitha Nayak wrote: ↑30 May 2024, 03:59 Excellent one! I totally enjoyed this book especially when she breaking generational curse, I mean myths around the relationship.

This is a really fun book Harshitha, I think you'll really enjoy her stories.

Kshitija Sonawane · Post by **Kshitija Sonawane** » 30 Oct 2024, 13:20

Relationships are a private affair and unfortunately, you don't get to discuss about your relationship's problems with others. Even if you do hire a marriage counsellor, it will be very expensive. This book seems like a good alternative for it.

Stephen Christopher 1 wrote: ↑24 Feb 2024, 05:14 [Following is a volunteer review of "Are You Love Smart or Love Stupid" by Dr. Rachel Sims.]

5 out of 5 stars
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I really wanted to read and review Are You Love Smart or Love Stupid?, as I’ve been married for almost a year, and a few tiny cracks are showing. Boy, I’m glad I did. At the end of the book, all my questions had been answered, and most importantly, all my concerns had been obliterated. I love how the author, Dr Rachel Sims, writes in an easy-to-understand yet no-holds-barred way. ‘People, it’s time to uncomplicate your love life,’ ‘Wake up and smell the coffee.’ This type of writing makes this book very engaging, well, for me anyway.

Throughout the book, Dr Sims covers many dating myths that some of us believe — 45 in all. She provides convincing explanations for why these myths need to be debunked.

There are lots of lessons in this book. The content about social media is very relevant to today's relationships. Life is rarely as ‘perfect’ as your friends or acquaintances make it appear on their feeds, so don’t judge your life by theirs. I know this for a fact, as my feed is filled with pics of my husband and I having a wonderful life. Everyone sees us as this perfect couple. Lol, but the fights, the disagreements, the money concerns, none of that is in my feed, and that’s a massive part of our relationship (and why I was so keen to read this book).

Are you looking for that perfect match like all Disney movies promise? Well, stop! They don’t exist. Forget perfect; look instead for someone who’s “good enough.” The bottom line is that you need to be realistic and not look for the fantasy. This is one of the many lessons you’ll learn from this book. Do you believe opposites attract? Hollywood wants us to think that. I won’t spoil it, but they may be right, then again, maybe not. Read the book to find out.

The book taught me that I’m in the individuation stage of my relationship; much of what she wrote about this period had me nodding emphatically. However, I didn’t agree with everything in the book. Myth # 19 about living together had me at the opposite end of the argument to her. It took until Myth # 39 before I got the answers I was looking for, so be patient with the book; eventually, you’ll read what you need to.

Chapter 9, Final Take-Aways, summarizes everything and is one you can go back to and reference whenever you need to. The checklists that begin on page 127 are worth going through. You and your relationship are in a good place if you can check most of the boxes.

The book is impeccably edited. I found two minor errors and applaud the author for ensuring the book is well crafted. Based on the usefulness of the topic, the ease of reading, and the excellent editing, I’m happy to rate this book 5 out of 5 stars. Are You Love Smart or Love Stupid? is for anyone in a relationship, even if it feels perfect. Couples experiencing any issues, even minor ones, will benefit the most. Who knows, it may even save your relationship.

I’ll finish the review with something from the book for you to ponder. You’ve all heard the term, ‘Happy wife, happy life!’ right? I’m sure many of you believe it and even practice it, but consider this: what if the ideal is, ‘Happy husband and happy wife, happy life?’

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Post by **Stephen Christopher 1** » 31 Oct 2024, 00:18

Kshitija Sonawane wrote: ↑30 Oct 2024, 13:20 Relationships are a private affair and unfortunately, you don't get to discuss about your relationship's problems with others. Even if you do hire a marriage counsellor, it will be very expensive. This book seems like a good alternative for it.

I got so much out of this book, and you're right, it's a more personal experience being able to read it than discuss it