Review of ...And Then I Would Fly

[Priya Murugesan]

[Following is an official OnlineBookClub.org review of "...And Then I Would Fly" by Damien Thompson.]

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5 out of 5 stars

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...And Then I Would Fly by Damien Thompson is a deeply touching memoir that explores the chaotic life of Damien, with a focus on his destructive relationship with his narcissistic father. This book spans several decades and portrays his struggles from childhood, illustrating how his father shattered his ideal life. The story begins in the 1980s, where we see Damien as a little boy, living happily and filled with love and admiration for his parents. His father, a talented musician who takes on odd jobs, and his mother, a gifted painter, create a seemingly perfect home. Damien recounts numerous incidents that showcase his father’s charisma and ability to connect with others, revealing how much he idolized him. However, everything changes abruptly when Damien's father reveals that his mother is asking for a divorce. This news leads to the collapse of Damien's ideal world. At a young age, he becomes an easy target for his father's manipulation, which twists his perception of love and loyalty. His father turns him against his mother, fostering resentment and using criminal thinking to influence his actions. Together, they sabotage his mother’s home, steal photos, and disturb her life in various ways. Along with his father, he lives in a neglected environment with little food, leading a dysfunctional life, which further corrupts his youthful innocence. Compounding the situation, his father brings home an eighteen-year-old girlfriend, and when she gives birth to his sister, Damien feels utterly devastated. Exposure to drugs spins his life out of control. Desperate to escape this degrading existence, Damien faces a daunting challenge in freeing both himself and his sister, Lily, from their dysfunctional father. Will he succeed? What will become of their lives? To discover the answers, grab a copy of the book.

When the narration begins, Damien's dad is portrayed as a lovable, strong, and friendly character from Damien's perspective. However, after reading the first few chapters, we can clearly see his true manipulative behavior. The story illustrates how Damien's innocent mind is corrupted by his narcissistic father and how he convinces Damien to adopt his twisted worldview, which is truly disturbing. Damien's confusion and eventual decision to go along with his father are depicted clearly. This book is not an easy read; it was hard for me to comprehend the wickedness of his father. It was also disheartening to see how Damien became trapped in his own world and overwhelmed by his worries.

This book illustrates how behaviors and attitudes are passed down through generations. The way you treat your children leaves a lasting impression on them, and they are likely to emulate that behavior when they grow up and raise their own children. Damien realizes this when he becomes a father and makes a conscious effort to break this cycle to become a better parent. Also, this memoir effectively highlights the negative effects of poor mental health and how it impacts families. It underscores the importance of fostering good mental health. I couldn't help but wonder how Damien's life might have been different if his father had a healthier mindset.

I was completely engrossed in the book and felt as though I was traveling alongside Damien on his life journey. Throughout the narrative, the author shares raw emotions and reveals his vulnerability. He opens up about his deep secrets and intimate feelings without any hesitation. It was heart-wrenching to witness a young boy suffering through the struggles of his life. At times, while reading, I felt a strong urge to reach out and help him. I feel Damien's story will be inspirational for readers who have endured a challenging childhood and are feeling weighed down by life's struggles. It encourages readers to rise above their circumstances and confront any challenges that come their way.

While reading, I noticed that some chapters were shorter than others. I also felt that the part where Damien tries to get out of his dysfunctional life and walk on the path of recovery could have been explored in more detail, but that is just my personal opinion. Readers should be aware that the book includes a fair amount of profanity, as well as numerous sexual and drug references. I did notice two errors; however, the overall editing was good. There is nothing I disliked about this book. So, I rate it 5 out of 5 stars. Readers who enjoy memoirs that delve into the complexities of individuals with troubled minds and narcissistic tendencies will find this book captivating.

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[Shaniz Tobiaz]

This a great book, am glad the author did good editing. Thanks for sharing this.

[Priya Murugesan]

This a great book, am glad the author did good editing. Thanks for sharing this.

Thanks!

[Julie Marie Basil]

This sounds like a heartbreaking memoir that deals with some very heavy topics. I will pass on reading it because I am more interested in reading books with lighter themes at the moment, but I am glad that the author was able to share his story.

[Seetha E]

This is certainly and intense and disturbing read. It is very true that the the behaviors are carried forward. It is also a fact that with determination and kindness the change is not impossible. I have added this book to my reading list after reading your review. Very well-written review.

[George Bastem]

Sounds like a raw and deeply emotional memoir that lays bare the devastating impact of a toxic parent. Damien’s journey of breaking free and striving for something better feels both heartbreaking and inspiring.

[Amy Luman]

I usually don’t enjoy memoirs because they seem to lead the reader to think of how great the author is. This one, however, reads like a fiction novel and we wish that Damien’s experiences weren’t real. Thanks!

[Priya Murugesan]

This sounds like a heartbreaking memoir that deals with some very heavy topics. I will pass on reading it because I am more interested in reading books with lighter themes at the moment, but I am glad that the author was able to share his story.

Thanks for reading my review!

[Priya Murugesan]

This is certainly and intense and disturbing read. It is very true that the the behaviors are carried forward. It is also a fact that with determination and kindness the change is not impossible. I have added this book to my reading list after reading your review. Very well-written review.

Thanks a lot!

[Priya Murugesan]

Sounds like a raw and deeply emotional memoir that lays bare the devastating impact of a toxic parent. Damien’s journey of breaking free and striving for something better feels both heartbreaking and inspiring.

Thanks!

[Priya Murugesan]

I usually don’t enjoy memoirs because they seem to lead the reader to think of how great the author is. This one, however, reads like a fiction novel and we wish that Damien’s experiences weren’t real. Thanks!

Thanks for sharing your comments!

[NoMImama]

This sounds like something I would like to read. Addiction, trauma, mental health struggles and complicated family situations are so prevalent in our society. Stories of successes in addiction recovery are so needed! Adding to my TBR.

[Gerry Steen]

This story must have been really hard-hitting. Damien's father behaved terribly. i hope that Damien was able to get over this and be a better person. As the saying goes: what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. I am rooting for Damien.

[Anu Anand]

This memoir sounds intense and deeply emotional, especially the way Damien's father manipulated him from a young age. I admire Damien's strength to rise above such a difficult upbringing. It seems like a raw and honest story, truly inspiring!

[Priya Murugesan]

This story must have been really hard-hitting. Damien's father behaved terribly. i hope that Damien was able to get over this and be a better person. As the saying goes: what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. I am rooting for Damien.

Well said, Gerry!