Review of The Unfakeable Code®
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Review of The Unfakeable Code®
[Following is a volunteer review of "The Unfakeable Code®" by Tony Jeton Selimi.]
If you’ve ever sat in a room full of people, endlessly scrolling, while still feeling like no one really sees you—you’ll probably find something in *#Loneliness: The Virus of Modern Age* that hits a little too close to home. Tony Jeton Selimi isn’t writing a book about digital detoxes or blaming smartphones for our emotional drought. He’s writing about the quieter, heavier truth beneath all that noise: we’ve never been more connected, and yet, so many of us feel fundamentally alone. The book peels back the curated layers of digital life and asks, “What would it mean to actually feel met by another human being?” Not liked. Not followed. But seen. And that’s where Selimi’s lens on love gets sharp—not soft, but precise, like he’s carving space for intimacy in a world that’s mostly surface.
What stood out most to me is how deeply he ties connection to self-awareness. You can’t build intimacy, he argues, if your foundation is built on projection, performance, or fear. That part really stuck. I’ve been in relationships where it felt like both of us were talking, but no one was actually speaking from the truth. Selimi challenges the modern ideal of “romance” with something riskier: emotional exposure. He offers a vision of love that isn’t just about compatibility or chemistry, but about whether you’re willing to be radically honest with yourself first. There’s a kind of spiritual backbone to it, especially when he speaks about love as a state of being—not just a feeling you catch, but a force you choose.
Now, that vision is compelling, but I’ll admit, there were points when I wondered if it leaned a little idealistic. Selimi’s model of conscious, loving relationships is beautiful—and ambitious. I can see some readers feeling a bit daunted by it, especially if they’re just trying to figure out how to have a meaningful conversation that doesn’t end in defensiveness. But in my opinion, that doesn’t make the message less valuable. It just means the book might ask more of you than you were expecting. And maybe that’s a good thing. Maybe we’re overdue for a higher bar.
Still, it’s not all theory. What I appreciated is how Selimi weaves in real stories—clients navigating breakups, estrangement, infidelity—and uses those moments to show what it looks like to choose love without losing boundaries. He doesn’t peddle quick fixes or fairytale endings. Instead, he asks the harder questions: Are you actually showing up? Are you giving from love or fear? And are you letting loneliness guide you toward connection—or just away from discomfort? There’s a chapter on emotional abandonment that made me sit still for a while. Not because it was new, but because of how simply he laid it bare. You can be lonely in a marriage, in a crowd, even in a conversation if you’re not really present. And that hit home more than I’d like to admit.
I’m giving this one a full 5 out of 5 stars. Not because it’s easy to read—but because it’s hard in a good way. Selimi doesn’t let you off the hook. He doesn’t want you to feel inspired; he wants you to feel responsible. For your emotional truth. For the way you show up in love. For how you answer loneliness when it whispers instead of screams. And while the advice may feel aspirational at times, it’s the kind of aspiration I think we need more of. Not just connection, but connection that actually heals.
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The Unfakeable Code®
View: on Bookshelves | on Amazon | on iTunes
If you’ve ever sat in a room full of people, endlessly scrolling, while still feeling like no one really sees you—you’ll probably find something in *#Loneliness: The Virus of Modern Age* that hits a little too close to home. Tony Jeton Selimi isn’t writing a book about digital detoxes or blaming smartphones for our emotional drought. He’s writing about the quieter, heavier truth beneath all that noise: we’ve never been more connected, and yet, so many of us feel fundamentally alone. The book peels back the curated layers of digital life and asks, “What would it mean to actually feel met by another human being?” Not liked. Not followed. But seen. And that’s where Selimi’s lens on love gets sharp—not soft, but precise, like he’s carving space for intimacy in a world that’s mostly surface.
What stood out most to me is how deeply he ties connection to self-awareness. You can’t build intimacy, he argues, if your foundation is built on projection, performance, or fear. That part really stuck. I’ve been in relationships where it felt like both of us were talking, but no one was actually speaking from the truth. Selimi challenges the modern ideal of “romance” with something riskier: emotional exposure. He offers a vision of love that isn’t just about compatibility or chemistry, but about whether you’re willing to be radically honest with yourself first. There’s a kind of spiritual backbone to it, especially when he speaks about love as a state of being—not just a feeling you catch, but a force you choose.
Now, that vision is compelling, but I’ll admit, there were points when I wondered if it leaned a little idealistic. Selimi’s model of conscious, loving relationships is beautiful—and ambitious. I can see some readers feeling a bit daunted by it, especially if they’re just trying to figure out how to have a meaningful conversation that doesn’t end in defensiveness. But in my opinion, that doesn’t make the message less valuable. It just means the book might ask more of you than you were expecting. And maybe that’s a good thing. Maybe we’re overdue for a higher bar.
Still, it’s not all theory. What I appreciated is how Selimi weaves in real stories—clients navigating breakups, estrangement, infidelity—and uses those moments to show what it looks like to choose love without losing boundaries. He doesn’t peddle quick fixes or fairytale endings. Instead, he asks the harder questions: Are you actually showing up? Are you giving from love or fear? And are you letting loneliness guide you toward connection—or just away from discomfort? There’s a chapter on emotional abandonment that made me sit still for a while. Not because it was new, but because of how simply he laid it bare. You can be lonely in a marriage, in a crowd, even in a conversation if you’re not really present. And that hit home more than I’d like to admit.
I’m giving this one a full 5 out of 5 stars. Not because it’s easy to read—but because it’s hard in a good way. Selimi doesn’t let you off the hook. He doesn’t want you to feel inspired; he wants you to feel responsible. For your emotional truth. For the way you show up in love. For how you answer loneliness when it whispers instead of screams. And while the advice may feel aspirational at times, it’s the kind of aspiration I think we need more of. Not just connection, but connection that actually heals.
******
The Unfakeable Code®
View: on Bookshelves | on Amazon | on iTunes
