What is the best way to overcome abuse and trauma?

paul48 · Post by **paul48** » 11 Apr 2018, 08:46

The first step to overcoming abuse and trauma is to remove oneself from that situation, if the abuse is happening now. Then acknowledge it, and accept that nothing you thought or did made you deserve it. The next step is to seek help and support to overcome the effects of this abuse on your self-esteem and your relationships with others. Individual therapy can help, and a support group can be very powerful. It will give you the chance to accept the support of others who have been abused, and to help others as you are helped. There is no quick fix, but support can help you in the present.

zilizopita1998 · Post by **zilizopita1998** » 11 Apr 2018, 14:11

I was greatly pleased to learn that Natalie resists abuse against her. In my own opinion, I think the best way to overcome abuse is to master the signs of its coming and to implement effective preventive measures. Prevention is always better than cure.

Kendra M Parker · Post by **Kendra M Parker** » 11 Apr 2018, 17:38

While I was not personally abused in my childhood, my husband and I adopted two children with history of abuse. Watching them heal has been enlightening. I think the biggest thing that allowed them to start the healing process was finally realizing that they were in a safe place. It is a slow process, but they are healing, and that pain of the trauma they have experienced is fading.

For a time right after the adoption, my artistic daughter would not touch any of her art. It wasn’t until she had healed enough that she could finally bring herself to pull it out again.

CheyenneR · Post by **CheyenneR** » 11 Apr 2018, 18:28

I believe that everyone has a different way to deal with trauma but I think that Natalie dealt with it the best she could given the circumstances. I think that it also depends on whether or not the author has experienced the type of trauma they write about. Some writers may have a hard time writing about certain types of abuse but not others. I think it all depends on personal experience.

Misbah_Hamza · Post by **Misbah_Hamza** » 12 Apr 2018, 00:50

a person is sometimes helpless to act even to protect themselves from being abused. the only thing that can save them is their own willpower to protect them from harm and danger.

Rethabile tohlang · Post by **Rethabile tohlang** » 12 Apr 2018, 02:16

the best thing to do is seeking for professional help, since the abuser might not like the idea of being confronted by neighbours or wife

Asen Stoyanchev · Post by **Asen Stoyanchev** » 12 Apr 2018, 04:00

It is very important to have someone beside you who understands the you and knows you well.

Laura Ungureanu · Post by **Laura Ungureanu** » 12 Apr 2018, 05:32

The best scenes of abuses are the ones written by people who experienced it. I think that no matter what you do, the abuse will stay with you, in a part of your memory. The best way to overcome it may be professional help, depending on the gravity of the situation. But some people can get over this if they have the right persons by their side. Nonetheless, it is too difficult to cope with it by yourself.

mamalui · Post by **mamalui** » 12 Apr 2018, 06:08

I found my outlet in religion. Reading the bible seems to work for me. Reading other books also seem to take me out of the reality of the situation. As where I'm situated there is no talking to a trained professional. I'm waiting until I relocate to seek the help I need.

23melissaann23 · Post by **23melissaann23** » 12 Apr 2018, 09:13

For Natalie I would definitely get away from it

superkid · Post by **superkid** » 12 Apr 2018, 09:44

The best way is to talk to someone who can understand you and if you have no one to trust then fight back.

ostercl · Post by **ostercl** » 12 Apr 2018, 10:08

NL Hartje wrote: ↑02 Apr 2018, 23:42 As an introvert and someone who was emotionally abused for years, I found solace in quiet time: running, yoga, reading.

Reading is a beautiful escape for a variety of things that plague our lives - I'm glad you've found comfort in it!

ostercl · Post by **ostercl** » 12 Apr 2018, 10:10

Asen Stoyanchev wrote: ↑12 Apr 2018, 04:00 It is very important to have someone beside you who understands the you and knows you well.

I agree, it is very hard to take advice from those who have not been through the same traumatic events as you. For any event that may trigger PTSD, it is important to have resources in your life that can walk you through the healing process that have been there themselves.

Katherine Smith · Post by **Katherine Smith** » 12 Apr 2018, 11:56

I think that if you have dealt with abuse, it is hard to talk about because it is personal. In this situation, it is not just the alcoholic stepfather that is at fault for the abuse. Families with addiction not only have the addict, but also the enablers. I think that other adults such as mothers or grandparents are responsible as well because they enable the addict to act the way that they do. I was emotionally abused by my mother and I still have issues with trusting people. Fortunately, my therapist Anne has been a huge help.

Mrsmurphy30 · Post by **Mrsmurphy30** » 12 Apr 2018, 20:04

I think that Natalie could have possibly overcame abuse and trauma by writing expressing what she went through and words of poetry and song writing expressing the outcome in the turnouts of her life and everything that she went through and how she overcame the abused mentally physically and emotionally .