Is Natalie's protection of her mother a reversal of roles? Does it happen often nowadays? Any personal experiences?
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Re: Is Natalie's protection of her mother a reversal of roles? Does it happen often nowadays? Any personal experiences?
I don't know if this is a good or a bad thing but we can all see that even though Natalie tried her best to be in control of the situation, she was still affected. This is clearly shown in some mistakes she made like loving someone else's husband.
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I think it happens more commonly at a younger age for children with parents who have dependency on drugs or alcohol.
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I wasn't the oldest child but my parents kept telling me I had to be a second mother to my siblings-all boys.Mildred Tabitha wrote: ↑19 Apr 2018, 02:06 I agree that it happens nowadays too. I know this because I am a firstborn and I think firstborn children are 99% more likely to face this situation. Even some parents encourage it when they keep telling you that you should care for your younger siblings and be a role model. So often times we find ourselves taking a role that is not ours instead of being a child and enjoying life.
I don't know if this is a good or a bad thing but we can all see that even though Natalie tried her best to be in control of the situation, she was still affected. This is clearly shown in some mistakes she made like loving someone else's husband.
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where they have to act like adults. It is unfortunate that, as
mentioned in the story, there are instances of kids needing to
act like adults because of the circumstances happen in the society.
A healthy family environment should be nurtured in the society
through awareness creation and education.
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I agree with you. I've heard about and seen several relationships like this. The abused child clings to the parent who doesn't abuse them because they're the one lifeline; they're the one good thing/person in the child's life (even if that person doesn't stand up for the child when being abused). The person doesn't even really need to be that great of a person, but because they don't actually lay a hand on the child, that's who the child clings to and bonds with.mmklundt wrote: ↑04 Apr 2018, 20:34 I think this is common. If there is one parent in the household who is less of an abuser or is abused themselves the child will have an attachment to that parent that goes beyond the normal. Not only will the affection be doubled because of the need but a child will also defend because of the bond felt to that parent.
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