Was there any way Natalie could justify her feelings for a married man?
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Re: Was there any way Natalie could justify her feelings for a married man?
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So it'll be unjustifiably wrong if the man who is on right age, right mindset and married would take advantage of her. That will be really a NO NO!
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Justify her actions? Now, that's a whole different question.
When you're 16, you don't have the necessary self control. I can't remember who I was at 16. I remember things from when I was 16, but I don't remember who I was. Would I have been able to resist, were I in Natalie's situation? I'd like to think so, but I just don't know. At 16, I was an outcast. I had been made fun of my whole life. My best friend was the "hot" one and stole all of the guys that I like — as if I'd had a chance anyway. At 18 I lost my virginity to an older man (after a recently ended 3 year relationship where we promised to save ourselves for marriage), one whom all the "cool girls" thought was "hot." Though I didn't tell anyone, it was my smug revenge. Had he been married then, would my actions have been any different? I don't know. I like to think that's true, but I had my own internal struggles that I "addressed" with my actions — and, like Natalie, there were consequences to my actions.
As the older, and married, party, it was Mr. Glover's responsibility to exercise self control and not put Natalie in a situation that she was practically doomed from the start to be unable to avoid. He manipulated her emotionally. He took advantage. Who knows? Maybe she even thought her job was at risk if she didn't comply, and she needed that money to help her mother, of whom she was very protective.
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I have way more problem with a married adult man allowing himself to be "stolen" if someone has to carry the larger part of the blame.
Natalie still bears responsibility for her actions, of course. But I wouldn't say there's ever so little nuance in a situation like that, especially involving a minor, to pin all the fault on her.
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I agree. It's chemistry. It is also complicated and evolving as you say. Without adding respect, loyalty and kindness to the mix, love is not likely to stay in a relationship even if the people do.N_R wrote: ↑06 Apr 2018, 00:08 It is a very tricky subject and some people have some very fixed views on this. However, I think that love is really a collection of physical chemical reactions we have to someone and it fades over time (approx 2 yars), this is why a lot of relationships break up around this time. Real love is finding things to love about the person and continue to do so, which is why relationships undergo changes and phases. I think that we do need to think about what our intentions are and why we are doing things as hurting other people is not a good way to live or value.
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