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Re: Could you date someone who doesn't read?

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Absolutely not... I once dated someone, despite the fact that I knew nothing of his intellect, simply because his name was Arthur Conan Doyle [last name]. He went by Conan. I thought he must be a reader or at least at least the child of someone interested in literature... Come to find out, he had zero interest in reading Sherlock Holmes, let alone anything else, and he as well as his parents were all completely uneducated. Quite disappointing. :/ I don't date anyone now until I know them well enough to know that they at least enjoy reading!
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No. I don't mind if they don't read as much as I do, because I read way too much. But if they don't read at all...that's a no no. I have to say that I even broke up with someone because he read a really weird genre of books. Well, I didn't break up with him BECAUSE of that...

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LiteraryAddicted wrote:No. I don't mind if they don't read as much as I do, because I read way too much. But if they don't read at all...that's a no no. I have to say that I even broke up with someone because he read a really weird genre of books. Well, I didn't break up with him BECAUSE of that...

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Nope. Definitely not. Too likely she'd be a dummy.
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I think I could. It would only become a problem if they are the time that see reading as a waste of time.
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I am married to someone who does not read,I do my own thing and I will not be stopped.lol
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My husband is not a reader. However, he enjoys it when I tell him about the story I am reading. This is very enjoyable for both of us and is a great compromise.
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I have found it hard to date a man that doesn't read. It seems like he stops whatever he is doing, sits down and fidgets and keeps glancing at me, making me feel guilty! Then when I stop reading, he settles down, and is glued to the tv. :shock: What the heck?? Then I fidget and keep glancing at him, but it doesn't matter!! He is happy!! :lol: I dream of finding a man that will read in companionship with me, perhaps cuddling while reading, but I haven't found it yet! I will never stop hoping and dreaming!! That is a wonderful aspect of reading!! It encourages you to dream! :D
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Post by Donnapants »

I'm engaged to a man who does not read books. He reads news and science articles, though. We talk about the books I'm reading and shows interest in my hobby. So the fact that he does not read literature has never bothered me. I wouldn't be marrying him if he was a jerk about it.
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There are many things in the world to share. I am an author and started dating a very successful businessman (who was so busy working he had no time to read things outside of his business). He paid absolutely no attention to what I had written. A little blow to the ego but so what. We dated for 7 years and finally married. His drive back and forth to the offices and job sites was very time consuming - so I suggested books on tape and got some for him. He is hooked on those and has become an avid fan of several authors and we now discuss books. Funny how things work out.
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Post by DMBrotton »

i would BUT t'would be very difficult......at my age i'd rather read than date anyway....ALAS
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Post by ta2kitty »

My fiance does not like to read. It does bother me because in the 8 years we've been together, I keep trying to get him to read stuff so we can discuss it. It is frustrating and I don't understand people who don't WANT to read but I know everyone is different. Luckily, he is intelligent and we can have other discussions :-)
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Barbarabillig wrote:... His drive back and forth to the offices and job sites was very time consuming - so I suggested books on tape and got some for him. He is hooked on those and has become an avid fan of several authors and we now discuss books. Funny how things work out.
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Thx!
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Of course, you are never too old to learn. Books are for everyone, regardless.
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