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I think in the times we live in today a lot more acceptable, but not everyone feels it is good. I personally think there is nothing wrong with it. I t will have its challenges, dealing with different cultures. But what marriage doesn't have its challenges to overcome.
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Interracial marriages are much more acceptable in recent times, a lot of that kind of marriage beleive its advantages outweighs it disadvantages which is why they are in it. It may have contributed to kalayla's problems in a little way more than in entirety.
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I'm at an age where I no longer think of marriages as bi-racial, mixed marriage, or any other title one can give to it. Certainly, relationships are more diverse than they have been. But you need to remember that it wasn't that very long ago where in some communities one could be imprisoned for dating, let alone marrying, a person of color. By 2045, the white population within the USA will for the first time be eclipsed by those who are not white. A good portion of these individuals will be children from blended parents. My prayer is that by then, if not much sooner, no one will care about the color of one's skin, but simply recognize the value of one's humanity.
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Stephanie Elizabeth wrote: 01 Sep 2020, 05:55
Joseph_ngaruiya wrote: 01 Sep 2020, 02:59 Kalayla is biracial. What's your viewpoint on interracial marriages, especially in the present day? Do you think it's acceptable? Could it have contributed to the painful experiences that Kalayla goes through?
Of course it is acceptable; I think it is quite commonplace in our world today. While its possible that this caused some of Kalayla's hardships, I feel that it was more likely a result of low socio-economic status, and other factors.
I completely agree. It's definitely much more acceptable now than in the 20th century. People are now more tolerant and understanding about biracial marriages. Kalayla's issues stem more out of her socio economic background than anything else
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Interracial marriages are acceptable in this current time unlike history. But biracial children still suffer from not being accepted.

Interracial marriages, with it's acceptance, still face averse reactions from some families. It's more of an individual thing now.

As for Kalayla, being biracial is enough to have contributed to her sufferings because, with acceptance these people still face opposition. They are neither here nor there and are subsequently, not given a sense of belonging.
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Fliesie01 wrote: 17 Sep 2020, 04:21 I think in the times we live in today a lot more acceptable, but not everyone feels it is good. I personally think there is nothing wrong with it. I t will have its challenges, dealing with different cultures. But what marriage doesn't have its challenges to overcome.
imet123 wrote: 17 Sep 2020, 05:23 Interracial marriages are much more acceptable in recent times, a lot of that kind of marriage beleive its advantages outweighs it disadvantages which is why they are in it. It may have contributed to kalayla's problems in a little way more than in entirety.
Mstrtim wrote: 17 Sep 2020, 08:10 I'm at an age where I no longer think of marriages as bi-racial, mixed marriage, or any other title one can give to it. Certainly, relationships are more diverse than they have been. But you need to remember that it wasn't that very long ago where in some communities one could be imprisoned for dating, let alone marrying, a person of color. By 2045, the white population within the USA will for the first time be eclipsed by those who are not white. A good portion of these individuals will be children from blended parents. My prayer is that by then, if not much sooner, no one will care about the color of one's skin, but simply recognize the value of one's humanity.
Zee_Zee wrote: 17 Sep 2020, 08:52 Interracial marriages are acceptable in this current time unlike history. But biracial children still suffer from not being accepted.

Interracial marriages, with it's acceptance, still face averse reactions from some families. It's more of an individual thing now.

As for Kalayla, being biracial is enough to have contributed to her sufferings because, with acceptance these people still face opposition. They are neither here nor there and are subsequently, not given a sense of belonging.
Parenting is the most fulfilling job, but it obviously comes with its challenges. It helps a child build their optimism and confidently change their social behaviors positively. Children also gain strong problem-solving skills when they have a positive relationship with their parents. Kalayla and Lena's son had a problem when growing up. Their parents were not thorough in terms of moral uprightness, consequences, punishment, and correction. It is the main reason why they all struggled with emotional development and content relationships with others in their life.
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Fliesie01 wrote: 17 Sep 2020, 04:21 I think in the times we live in today a lot more acceptable, but not everyone feels it is good. I personally think there is nothing wrong with it. I t will have its challenges, dealing with different cultures. But what marriage doesn't have its challenges to overcome.
imet123 wrote: 17 Sep 2020, 05:23 Interracial marriages are much more acceptable in recent times, a lot of that kind of marriage beleive its advantages outweighs it disadvantages which is why they are in it. It may have contributed to kalayla's problems in a little way more than in entirety.
Mstrtim wrote: 17 Sep 2020, 08:10 I'm at an age where I no longer think of marriages as bi-racial, mixed marriage, or any other title one can give to it. Certainly, relationships are more diverse than they have been. But you need to remember that it wasn't that very long ago where in some communities one could be imprisoned for dating, let alone marrying, a person of color. By 2045, the white population within the USA will for the first time be eclipsed by those who are not white. A good portion of these individuals will be children from blended parents. My prayer is that by then, if not much sooner, no one will care about the color of one's skin, but simply recognize the value of one's humanity.
Fola_M wrote: 17 Sep 2020, 08:48
Stephanie Elizabeth wrote: 01 Sep 2020, 05:55
Joseph_ngaruiya wrote: 01 Sep 2020, 02:59 Kalayla is biracial. What's your viewpoint on interracial marriages, especially in the present day? Do you think it's acceptable? Could it have contributed to the painful experiences that Kalayla goes through?
Of course it is acceptable; I think it is quite commonplace in our world today. While its possible that this caused some of Kalayla's hardships, I feel that it was more likely a result of low socio-economic status, and other factors.
I completely agree. It's definitely much more acceptable now than in the 20th century. People are now more tolerant and understanding about biracial marriages. Kalayla's issues stem more out of her socio economic background than anything else
Zee_Zee wrote: 17 Sep 2020, 08:52 Interracial marriages are acceptable in this current time unlike history. But biracial children still suffer from not being accepted.

Interracial marriages, with it's acceptance, still face averse reactions from some families. It's more of an individual thing now.

As for Kalayla, being biracial is enough to have contributed to her sufferings because, with acceptance these people still face opposition. They are neither here nor there and are subsequently, not given a sense of belonging.

One of the benefits of interracial marriage is learning a new culture. Marrying a spouse from a different race opens your mind to accepting people from other races, not because of their color, but because of their personality. If interracial marriages are encouraged, then there would be more interpersonal relationships everywhere. For instance, in places where such marriages are unacceptable, it's stressful to try and fit in. You can see that after getting married to Jamal, Maureen was too afraid to make new friends because she didn't know how they'd react when they found out her husband was black.
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It is a plain fact that interracial marriages are widely accepted these days, but the backward mindset of racist people remains. We need to acknowledge the fact that in the story Maureen's family was the one who opposed their marriage and did all sorts of crazy things like, disowning her daughter, because of her mad belief. We must not forget that Jamal's family had to accept a white daughter in law as well and though they were resistant they did accept her. So, It shows that even in those days, there were people who accepted interracial marriages.

As far as Kalayla's hardships go, she would have faced racism if both her parents were black. The reason for her hardships and probably the reason she had to act like a grown-up was because of their financial conditions and Maureen's shortcomings to act as a parent. Since Maureen was weak, Kalayla had to be strong.
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Marriage in its entirety is beyond the two individuals involved. While acceptance may come very easily for the couple irrespective of race or social status, family acceptance may be difficult. And when family acceptance is in question, marriage struggle gets a notch higher.

That being said, interracial marriage is socially acceptable but depends largely on family acceptance. The spouse's family view and acceptance of Kalayla could have added significantly to her struggles.
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The acceptance of interracial marriage varies on location and past history. In some parts of some countries it is the norm. But prejudice takes generations to be overcome. In Kalayla's story she and her mother are directly affected by her mother's interaccial marriage which is not accepted by her grandparents for years.
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It is definitely acceptable. People have free will and they should be free to choose whom they love. It is becoming far less controversial in the world today and people are beginning to be more accepting of people's choices and circumstances. In my opinion, the majority of Kalayla hardships stem from their overall low socioeconomic status and not necessarily from her biracial identity.
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Of course interracial marriages are acceptable, especially nowadays where we become more open and aware. Moreover, they should be considered as a good thing uniting cultures and communities.
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I once wished to marry out of my race, but I was slapped out of it. Lolz. Well, I think parents and guardians dictate much of one's living than what people themselves does. There is actually nothing bad in having interracial relationship or marriage, circumstances just differs, and life happens. Some get lucky, and some don't. So I wouldn't want to believe race as the problem.
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Interracial relationships and marriages are more accepted today than previous generation, thanks to exposure and enlightenment. However, I don't think Kalayla's hardship is caused by it.
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Certainly! Interracial marriages are acceptable. I think that her situation might have been better if she'd been from a different race. However, her socio-economic status was more responsible for her plight
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