What is the best way to overcome abuse and trauma?
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Re: What is the best way to overcome abuse and trauma?
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While I agree community pressure can help prevent abuse, it sometimes might have the opposite effect in some circumstances. If the community itself has less healthy ideas, abuse can be normalized so it becomes even harder for someone to leave. I'm thinking in particular in decades when divorce was taboo or in communities where looking outside for help is considered 'weak' or 'wrong'.cristinaro wrote: ↑10 Apr 2018, 11:54Correct. I also believe that community pressure can still do wonders. You are right about healing, though. This is a different matter and it requires a lot of patience and determination.KitabuKitamu wrote: ↑08 Apr 2018, 13:57 In the past, we used to have the benefit of community living, where everybody's life was everyone's business. This can aid in prevention of abuse, because it will be easily discovered. Healing is more difficult and takes more than community.
Then there are cases where even a great support network and community around a person does not help the person.
A local news story from a few years ago highlighted this for me. A woman was leaving an abusive husband/boyfriend, had found a place where she and her kids were safe, had police reports on her side, was filling out paperwork for a restraining order, and had several people helping her. The guy came into the place where she worked with a gun. Other people were shot and the woman died. While all the evidence and paperwork she had helped give him a longer sentence, her children are still orphans and she never got to build a new life, to move on, to feel safe.
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than words can say. Thanks for the review.
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Very well said. We cannot really say what's best for everyone. People have different experiences so different approach or solution could work and we cannot say that what's best for one is also the best for another or for everyone.nyathireviewer wrote: ↑22 Jun 2018, 03:29 I'm not so sure if there is a 'best' way to overcome abuse and trauma. People heal in different ways and require a solution fit for them. Talking about it might work for one person, but another might need something else. I know a lady who found working with a abused children much more therapeutic than the many years she had spent in therapy trying to overcome what happened to her as a child.
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You echoed my thoughts. There’s no one “best” way to handle anything. What is helpful to one person wouldn’t necessarily help another. Every person is different and therefore has to cope and adapt differently. In a lot of ways that is the true challenge of writing a story about abuse: you have to remember that your character is a person and has to deal with their situation in a way that is different from other abuse protagonists.
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